Where do I start? Ok so we invited my 4 yr old son's friend and his parents over for Thanksgiving and they were delighted to come join us. I asked the mom before hand if she and her family were allergic to anything or can't eat any foods. She said they can't chocolates or drink sodas but everything else they can eat. 2 days, we made a lot of food and cleaned up our place to make it comfortable for the guests. When the guests arrived, I welcomed the parents by hugging them and when I hugged the dad, the dad just stood there and didn't hug me back for some reason. This made me feel weird so I let it go.
I asked if they would like anything to drink or eat and they all ate (only a few foods) but the mom didn't want to eat anything or drink anything at all. I soon found out before I served her turkey that she didn't eat meat and she was a vegetarian. I wondered why she didn't tell me beforehand that she couldn't eat meat, so I could fix her something else besides turkey. Continued.....
2007-11-24 04:22:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
Continued... The mother only ate but 2 tablespoons of mashed potatoes and sweet potatoes and then she wasn't hungry anymore. She didn't even want to taste the stuffing, green bean casserole, muffin and other non meat foods that we made. She didn't want to drink juice. She only took a sip of water. And she asked if she could take the rest home, if that's okay. I felt so offended that she didn't make an effort to eat.
I even played a little bit of piano but they didn't say any comments after I finished playing.
Then the mother asked me that I shouldn't worry about anything. It's the people thats more important than the food. She got her intuition wrong because I didn't have a reason to smile anymore because I tried to make the guests feel comfortable but I ran out of ideas. I packed plenty food for them so they could take it home.
when I hugged the guests goodbye thanked them, the dad the didn't reciprocate the hug, he just stood there clueless. He didn't even say goodbye.
2007-11-24 04:22:44 · update #1
I saw the dad before and I shook hands with him before but when they came over, I found it more appropriate to give them a hug this time, especially, when coming to our house.
I didn't receive a thank you email note yet from these guests. Should I send them one?
2007-11-24 04:23:21 · update #2
Send them a note saying you thought the corpse imitation
was hilarious and add me to the guest list, I'll eat you out of house and home and they will have to spray us down with a hose when saying goodbye.
2007-11-24 04:32:47 · answer #1 · answered by Helpy Helperton 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Depends.
If this is a relationship you still wish to persue, you could send a note saying, "I'm so glad you shared the holiday with us. We enjoyed your company and look forward to getting together with you again."
However, it sounds like you didn't really enjoy the experience. If you do not want to persure an ongoing relationship, then you should send nothing. In fact, it is they who owe you a "thank you" note.
Seems to me they are rude. However, could there be a reason she didn't eat much? Did she recently undergo gastric bypass surgery or some other health issue? As for the hugging, I will tell you this: my husband would have responded the same way. He's just not a hugger. On the other hand, I once hugged and kissed my friend's husband on his cheek simply as a cordial greeting. They seemed shocked. lol. Wow, that was uncomfortable. In my family, it is not unusual at all. But I've since realized the family I grew up in was apparently more affectionate than many.
Yep, we're a bunch of huggers.
It's hard for us not to. It's like shaking hands to us.
I feel bad for you. All that work and anticipation for the dinner and to be let down like that. I've been there before, too. Work for days getting ready for the perfect get together, and people act so unappreciative, eat and run, and just behave as if attending was a chore. I've been in tears after eveyone has left. Granted, MOST guests are not like this, but when even one leaves unsatisfied, I feel as though my dinner was a failure.
2007-11-24 04:33:16 · answer #2 · answered by Yinzer from Sixburgh 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's best rise above bad behavior and set an example.
Next time you are in your mother's shoes, make sure you compliment the host on the decorations and everything else you can think of. Then say you are on a medical diet but you do want to taste a few things. Say, "Yum!"...a few times
Remember, what goes around comes around. You will be in her shoes one day. Practice best behavior now. Send a nice note.
Shake off the slime. Take a deep breath and get some sunshine. And Always do the right thing no matter what.
2007-11-24 04:28:44 · answer #3 · answered by ToYou,Too! 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, they should be thanking YOU, not the other way around. I'd just blow it off (and not have them over again) as they are obviously very strange people. Maybe they didn't wish to attend in the first place, but felt obligated to for some reason. They seemed in a hurry to leave by not eating which cut the meal and their visit short. You did nothing wrong. Don't hold your breath waiting for a thank from them.
2007-11-24 04:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ тнє σяιgιиαℓ gιяℓfяι∂αу ♥ 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
WOW--That really is strange and ox ward I never went though any thing like that it would be hard to decide to sent them a thank you note--But you have to put every thing a side and think about the children did your child and his friend have a good time if so --Just have your son send his friend a thank you note
2007-11-24 05:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by darlene l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't hug. Some vegans will eat around the meat and don't want attention called on themselves.
BUT....these people were extremely rude and you don't OWE them the courtesy of a thank you note.
2007-11-24 04:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by snowwillow20 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There were guests in your home, they should be the ones to send YOU a thank you note. But don't expect one, nowadays - sad to say - people don't send them. How unfortunate!
You were very thoughtful and a great host - I thank you!
2007-11-24 04:26:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would send them a thank you note, eventhough they weren't the best of guests doesnt mean that you should act on their level. If you would typically send a thank you note to your guests then I would send one. If it would be abnormal behavior for you to send one, then I wouldnt go out of your way to do so.
2007-11-24 04:28:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You may send a thank you note telling that you enjoyed their company. I believe we should display our good manners regardless how others behave. If they reciprocate its good but if they don't then still we should continue doing what we feel is right.
2007-11-24 04:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by azurewaters1 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm with Girlfriday and trebs. Don't send a note, and shake it off. Learn from it and teach your kids courtesy.
2007-11-24 05:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by Zipperhead 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋