I just thought of this...I am 35 yrs old and i have a 9 yr old daughter and a 21 month old son. Me and my boyfriend of almost 5 years live together and the 21 month old is both of ours but i still consider myself a single mother since i am not married and i care for the children 98 percent of the time. what do you think?
2007-11-24 04:04:18 · 17 answers · asked by ♥Sexy Mama of 2 cuties♥ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not married yet because i want him to pay off all of HIS bills so we can start fresh
2007-11-24 04:10:46 · update #1
I am not paying his bills...he is doing that all on his own
2007-11-24 04:19:23 · update #2
big bully....It is not an excuse..even my parent shave told me to wait and have him get all his debts paid off..why would i want them in my name too when we are married...as far as the kids go...I am 35 yrs old and have 2 very far apart in ages as i was smart
2007-11-24 04:27:48 · update #3
I don't want to label you or define your life... you're happy with the guy of your choice, and your kids are getting what they need: being brought up by a loving man and woman :)
2007-11-24 04:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes you are single. As far a your detail? I like the excuse of waiting till he pays off his bills before you will marry him. I just wonder how many more kids later when this will happen.
Additional detail...You have lived with this guy for 5 years. Unless your living a relationship 50/50 being paid on bills, children, food and housing. I would say yes, if not and he is paying the bigger half of all bill, how do you expect him to pay his dept?
2007-11-24 12:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sexy Mama were I live you and your boyfriend would be considered as a married common law couple if you two are living together. Such if anything happened and this relationship was to end then the assets would be equally divided. But waiting for debts to be paid off is a smart idea providing he is good at paying them and not continuing to get into debt further. My wife and I wanted to do just as you two have decided but we ended up marring in May of this year and I still had plenty of debts (as did she). Love conquers money in my opinion and as such why wait if you two are truly in love and mature. Best of luck.
2007-11-24 12:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Technically, you are not married, so single. But, sounds like you are in a committed relationship with one of the children's father, so, not really single, maybe dating him, living together, not really single unless you are dating others and he is a roommate. So, I understand why you are confused, lol. Is he a contributing factor in your household financially? If so, I think, you are not a "single" mom, you have support and are in a relationship. And, most of us, married or single, take care of the kids 98 percent of the time:D Hope that helps, it is sticky sometimes...
2007-11-24 12:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by klatour2003 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes you are a considered a single mother. But why is an actual label so important?
2007-11-24 13:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, legally, I guess you would be considered single (since you're not married). However, you have a boyfriend and a child with him, so wouldn't you really be considered taken?
2007-11-24 12:20:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Duh!
Your with some one. in the house , same bed , 5 years now? They are your kids but he is supporting you and them, no matter what the %age is .
And you are 35? Unbelievable!!
2007-11-24 12:13:24 · answer #7 · answered by reinformer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should not be paying off his debts. Bad move. Watch some Judge Judy if you want to see how this ends up...
2007-11-24 12:14:47 · answer #8 · answered by Drudgesquad 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe its time to get married since you and your boyfriend have a child together and been together for five years. i think no to your being a single parent
2007-11-24 12:14:01 · answer #9 · answered by tracy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you are not married you are considered single, and if you are a mother at the same time you are a single mother.
2007-11-24 12:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by flipfairyflop 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋