Ok, till now, i cant find a way out, neither him. We're now starting to fall apart, he's in a very depressing situation so whenever i came over his house, always ended up fighting with him. He's already engaged with this girl for about 4 month and going to marry next year. Now, we're seldom meet up and he didn't even call me for a week already. Im really starting to get pissed. Im planning to break up with him tomorrow if i still cant figure it out what to do. So guys... any ideas what to do coz i really really love him! But i cant stand the way he's treating me. So different than before. Back then he's so romantic, he'll buy me a gift every 3 days. Now, i cant even talk to him.
Pls help me, thanks!
2007-11-24 03:59:42 · 10 answers · asked by L-kuza H 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
We're gay.
2007-11-24 04:12:38 · update #1
The decision on whether to marry the girl his family have chosen for him is *his* decision, not his family's. He has the choice not to go along with their wishes.
It looks like he has made the decision to put his family before you. This means that your relationship, if it continues, will always have your needs put behind those of him and his family. That wouldn't work for me and you need to ask yourself whether you are prepared to put up with the misery and loss of self esteem that will come with your continually coming in last place.
I think you need to draw a line under this. If he loves you enough he will choose you. If not, then you have your answer.
When a gay guy marries a girl, it rarely ends well. If he is bi then he will have the best of both worlds - his wife for kids and to please his family, and you on the side for the odd booty call whenever it takes his fancy. In either case, at some point it is likely that he will be found out and that won't be pretty - he will probably blame you.
It's easy for me to say this, because I'm not in love with this guy, but I think you need to move on and find someone who can give you the love and companionship you need.
2007-11-24 04:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by thatgaybloke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A secret marriage is never considered a marriage at all. He dont take his parents advice when he fell in love with u. So y does he need their consent now. He has to be a man and face the situation or else let go off u instead of spoiling ur life. Just leave him and go ahead with life. Its hard, but the fact is even bitter. Choice is urs
2016-05-25 05:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are certain he is gay, tell the girl yourself. It is the only way to go and will save her and both families a lot of grief in the long run. But if he has truly decided he is not gay, leave it alone. A lot of young people do a lot of experimenting later to find they really are heterosexual and want to get married to the opposite sex.
2007-11-24 04:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the US you can't force anyone to marry anyone. It sounds like time to cut your losses and move on if he isn't even talking to you. I'm sorry you are going through this and hope you find someone who makes you happy.
2007-11-24 04:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by jennysmith0214 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess your bf's mom haven't accepted the fact that he's gay and in love with you or she has no knowledge of such. if he really loves you then he'll fight for you. if he doesn't then he ain't worth ****. you both need to talk to his mom and let her know who you guys are and how you feel for each other. if she's a good mother then she'll want nothing more than her son's happiness with whatever and whomever...
2007-11-25 18:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. SO SAD. Let go. Someone for you will come along and it may be hard but move on quickly or you might just miss that other special.
2007-11-25 07:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by GONE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he if with her and you then he is a prick. He can't be forced to do anything he doesn't want to. but look at the situation and re evaluate the type of person you are with... something is wrong with this guy I think
2007-11-24 04:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is allowing his parents to tell him who to marry, you are better off without him. Find someone else and drop him.
2007-11-24 04:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. If someone is going to listen to their parent instead of their heart, than that someone isn't worth the effort.
2007-11-24 04:05:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should move on to someone else. No one's parent can FORCE them into a marriage (not in the USA anyway). He needs to tell his family to go to hell.
2007-11-24 04:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋