Is it okay to have an emotional relationship in office?

Question

I have a stressed marriage, but for the sake of kids we don't want to separate. A sweetheart in office in the same situation. We soothe eachother, but we don't cross the line -- stop just short of getting sexual. It gives us both a lot of happiness though one wishes for more. But is it okay? Or am I completely crazy and running away from reality?

Answer 1

i think it is very good and convenient. u should go forward and cross the limits and have love pleasures

Answer 2

Question is...do you love your wife? If you don't and are just together for the kids sake then that's something you need to talk to your wife about and see if you both want an "open" marriage. Although, I know it's hard for the kids but if you're both unhappy then you probably shouldn't be together.

If you love her and she loves you then I think you should both talk and start working on your marriage. Something brought you together, something is pulling you apart and their might be lots of stress but you need to figure out how to fix that. If you start turning to someone at work then you're not giving yourself, your marriage and your wife a fair chance. You're opening up a road that can be dangerous and in the long run can turn into something more. You will then end up with more problems than you originally had.

If you love her, sit down...talk...refocus....be honest about everything....maybe get some help....read books. But stay away from the temptations, they never help. :)

Answer 3

How does a marriage become stressed? You and your wife let it get that way to this point. Kids are resilient and will be happier and well adjusted when their parents' are.

You are setting yourself up for a massive sexual harrassment lawsuit if your "emotional" affair goes wrong or ends badly, you've already said one wants more.

If you don't want to be married in the truest sense, then divorce already, maybe your wife has been looking as well and found someone. Maybe not, but you're heading down a slippery slope and it might end up costing you everything, not just legally, but financially as well.

Answer 4

You are cheating yourself and your children out of happiness! You should both try to get counseling with your respective spouses and then if that doesn't solve the marriages, each divorce. You deserve happiness and your children will be happier as well with a single parent and less stress but to go on like you are is cheating on your respective spouses as well and probably simply postponing an inevitable divorce eventually any how.

Answer 5

Go for it, if you both want it. But there must be an understanding of what the relationship will evolve into. If it is friendly affectionate and casual, then so be it. You both will return to your respective families. If not, then prepare for changes in both your lives. You may both become life partners. Or you both may decide that you will not "cross the line" and just share unconditional friendship. Your affair could be just a a simple friendly sharing of intimacy together and that's it !

Answer 6

I hate to say you are treading in dangerous waters, but you are. Marriage is not all a bed of roses, you loved this woman enough to marry her and have children with her. Can you not find it in your soul to get serious about your marriage and make every effort to sort it out. If you can't, and statistics prove it is not always possible, Be an adult and get on with your life. Your kids won't thank you for living a hellish life for them, in all probability they will respect you much less because you don't show the courage to face facts, that even a child can recognise, and deal with it.

Answer 7

You are not helping anything at home by avoiding it. It is not help to the kids to live in a stressed home. Fix the marriage and stop screwing around with the woman at the office.

Answer 8

yeah whisper........

u know wat ... our world is so filled with bias that only guys can be seeing someone else and not women ... so all those male bashing from above guys ... wat a shame ...i am sure ur a woman ....


ok coming to ur cheating ... wat do u define as cheating saying that u love someone and ur his for life time and having a relationship with someone else is cheating .. So are u a cheat ....

thats not all ... one person ur cheating is urself .. when ur not happy and still stay in rut .. ur cheating on urself .. ur feeling and ur soul ... how many times a day would u be saying if all this didnt happen then ... ur emotions get peeked up soon and ur sexual need would follow soon ... then wat dear ?

i believe u better take a risk ... just for a sake of not having sex doesnt mean that ur not doing any sin ...he is always in ur mind and ur husband is not there ... one sexual union may free ur soul .. let it be free and then u would see true love and bliss ... sex is not sin ... just that they both are three letter words

while u were asking the question itself the sex was in ur mind and soul ... let it free urself .. let ur children see new mom with more life and energy ... that one thing is not helping ur soul be in peace ... u know that much of sacrifice in not necessary .. ur children may not even understand ur pain now or ever ....

just get a new life ... and dont bring a new life on earth .. hope ur wise enough

Answer 9

You're already into the relationship, according to you.

Is it crazy? Will it give her grounds for divorce? Can you handle an office relationship gone bad? An angry confrontive spouse (hers and/or yours)? Someone knowing all about you? What if you become her boss or she, yours? What happens when she or you find another or reconcile with spouse?

It's not crazy, just not wise. Bandaid/bullet wound comes to mind.

Answer 10

Many people in your situation do have such emotional relationship outside home, either in office or elsewhere. NObody can say if that is correct or not. Only person to judge that is YOU and You alone. Also think about those people who have no such problems as mentioned by you, but in emotional relationship.

Answer 11

its natural n normal.
but understand the other 1 u see in office is not his true self necessarily.He will be different once married n take u for granted.
so its fine to flirt n fall inluv.
its not unusual.
the problem u hv at home is the problem faced by half the world so whats the deal
look at yrself
the slolution lies within