I am yet to take a decision.
I would like to know positive and negative points of having another child, regarding my son's life, my life, my wife's life and other people in general
I live in India.
2007-11-24 02:32:38 · 19 answers · asked by ByTheWay 4 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I know quite clearly what I should do after making the decision, in both the cases of wanting a child and not wanting a child. There is no need to elaborate on this point. I need help to make the decision.
2007-11-24 02:38:03 · update #1
6 minutes and 9 answers !
2007-11-24 02:39:58 · update #2
Why cant so many people understand what is responsible parenting. It is not a decision to be made on the whim and fancy of a couple. I have the following concerns
(1) Will it be better for my son? The resources his parents can afford for his education and other development will get halved
(2) Will it be worse for my son? He will be treated as *the only one* at home, but outside, he will be treated as any other
(3) Will it be worse for my son? He will have nobody to share his burden with, when problems in family happen (health, relationship, death of parents etc)
(4) Will it be good for the parents? They might not have any option but to depend all-time on only one offspring for love and emotional support in the old age and cant give a break to him.
(5) Will it be good for his mother? She will never have the womanly company of a daughter
(6) Will it be good for his father? He can never have the love in his heart for a daughter.
and so it goes. Lets enumerate the merits
2007-11-24 03:44:56 · update #3
I'm the product of a marriage between two only children. That means I don't have a lot of close relatives. If your son stays an only child, then there's always the chance he will meet and marry a woman who also was an only child. I'm not saying this is a good thing or a bad thing but I can't tell you how many times people I've told this to have said how odd it is to them that I don't have any aunts or uncles.
2007-11-24 14:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by RoVale 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Doing Genealogy here in the States i have discovered that prior to 1950s the Americans had children every 2-4 years.
The reason being while after the first one was born and then he reached 2-4 years he could help with the second. In your country India {sorry i don't know you traditions that well} i think
the family yours and your in-laws would like a larger family.
My Mother was one of 9 children. A Dad was 1 of 6 .
Good luck with the family
2007-11-24 02:42:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a personal decision that should be discussed between you and your wife.
That being said, I'm an only child and it was great when I was a child, but it's not so great as an adult. My parents are aging and it's starting to worry me. It would be great if I had a sibling that I could share these feelings with.
2007-11-24 02:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by smoofus70 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure, don't have another. Studies have actually shown that happiness actually goes down with having more than one child. The happiest people are those with only one kid. Those with one kid are more happy than those with none.
On the other hand, if your wife is sure she wants more - go for it, men with 4 or more kids live longer according to studies.
2007-11-24 02:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by Crawl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends how you raise the 4 year old
2007-11-24 02:35:18 · answer #5 · answered by f_of_hypocrisy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice for your son to have a siblin, however ask yourself these questions.
Will i be able to afford another person , am i patient enough to deal with two children in my household, will i teach my children the moral standards of life.If so get busy!
2007-11-24 02:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by mrrtt4851 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
this is not grocery shopping you are doing. Either you both want to have another child or not. Life is not always easy. Love is.
2007-11-24 11:09:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mary Smith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly, other people is out of the story.
ur child- Is he ready for a sibling?does he answer positively wen u talk about babies to him?
Ur wife- Im sure she will love ur decision....i will love it if my husband decide to have anthr baby with me.Its reli lovely.
2007-11-24 02:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am flabbergasted that someone would ask people on the internet to make that sort of decision for themselves
if you can support it and are willing to raise it, then have another one
again - why would you rely on us for this decision?
2007-11-24 02:36:29 · answer #9 · answered by T Leeves 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If your home is too small, and your income isn't so high, than don't because it will difficult raising more than one child if your home is too small and most of all, if there isn't enough money.
2007-11-24 02:47:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋