i am 6 eeks pregnant and need some advice.........?

Question

i already have a 6 month old daughter and i had an aboron 6 weeks ago.so i basically got pregnant within a few days of having the abortion and i have been for a scan because hey wanted to see if the aborion i had actually worked and it did so they have confirmed tht this is a new pregnancy. we have deceied that we are going to keep it but now im not so sure what i want i dont think i could go through another abortion but with my daughter i had a really difficult pregnany and was on crutches for the last month or so and a few months ago i was diagnosed with post natal deppresion and i really dont feel as if i would cope very well with 2 kids. i am 19. anyone got any good advice?

i never said i was too young.... what is wrong with you people? im not some sort of slag either ive been with my boyfrend for nearly 2 yrs so shut the **** up 2 the sily bitc that told me to keep my legs closed! and wht the hell is birth control anyway? im english and can never understand american people if its wat i think it is its called the pill and yes ive been takin it!!!

bringin sexy back.......... just like to say i dont think its any of your business.......... and that i have reported your answer because it has really upset me! you dont even no me so how dare you jdge me? i said i didnt no if i could cope not tha i cant cope i already have a baby and im doin judt fine with her! so keep your nose out!

Answer 1

i had one...

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Answer 2

you'll naturally be very confused at the moment, you had a bad experience after your first pregnancy which will effect the way you think about any future ones, just remember that not all pregnancies are the same and you may not have one single problem this time round. Also you gave up one baby with the abortion and were no doubt shocked with the news of this new pregnancy, your head will be swimming with so much different information and questions right now.

Coping with 2 is easier then you first imagine, yes it is hard work but women have a natural ability to adapt and manage difficult situtations. I know i worried about how i'd cope with 2 but it just happens, you buckle down and get on with it.

You don't want another abortion, which is good, if you truly feel you can't cope then adoption is an option but you have to remember that it is your partners child too and he may not agree to this.

Sit down with your other half and tell him how you're feelings, talk about you fears and let him understand where you're coming from, you could also discuss it with your midwife or gp, they will be able to give you a neutral perpestive on the situation and give appropriate advise.

Good luck, you'll be just fine.x

Answer 3

I am very sorry to hear that this has happened to you. It is going to be extremely hard but why not just let nature takes it course. You should have used protection to begin with and you wouldn't have had to have an abortion. Now it's time for you to think ahead. Your daughter is only 6 months old, and you are pregnant for a second time since she was born. You either need to stop having sex or you need to learn how to say no, take precautions or he needs to learn how to use a condom.

If you are worried, talk to you doctor. No one can give what you really want to hear and in the end, it's up to you and your mate to decide what you want to do. But think about it long and hard. And don't make any rash decisions. If you personally know you can't raise another child, think about adoption. There are many great people out there that can't have children and would love to give a home to a child.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

abortion is personal choice not one i myself could ever do
why would you have an abortion then have unprotected sex again knowing you have just aborted one you really should of been on some form of better contraception
I'm very fertile so now what its like to fall pregnant that quickly and this baby I'm carrying now was not planned but i have to take some responsibility for the fact we were not being 100% careful i was on the pill but missed so many its not surprising i got pregnant i have 3 other kids so believe me i really did not welcome the idea of another baby but these things happen for a reason
i also suffered with pnd and could not cope i had a hard pregnancy with my last baby and i had a hard time while she was a baby but im not going to blame my unborn baby for these problems it did not ask to be born at the end of the day
and after i got over the shock of it all im learning to deal with and adjust to the situation im in
im not saying it wont be hard but if you have support from family im sure you can get through it
so if you really feel you can't cope then i would put the baby up for adoption ut i bet that's not something that will happen is it
im sure your going to be just fine give things time and take each day at a time

Answer 5

It is kind of sad that you just aborted a baby and now pregnant again. That poor first baby. If you cannot handle difficult pregnancies and raising kids, then don't get pregnant. There are so many women out their trying to conceive and would love to have a baby and then there are women who don't know the meaning of birthcontrol and... Give the child a chance, give it up for adoption, but don't have it aborted.I could talk on this all day...

Answer 6

First let me say to you....never let anyones judgement affect you. I've been around a lot of women with similar experiences. Follow your heart. I have a 6 month old baby as well, and I can't possibly imagine another right now. If you feel abortion is in your best interest right now, do what YOU have to do. No one else is going to carry your child and experience the complications that you will. Also, you mentioned that you are currently suffering from post natal depression. Pregnancy naturally affects women mentally, as horomone levels rise. Make sure you are mentally stable enough to carry yourself through another 34 weeks (approx.). Now the damage is already done, so it's simply redundant to make negative remarks....better yet, listen to anyone else's. You're obviously verrrrry fertile, so choose a contraceptive that will WORK for you and take care of your body. Make sure you get a doctor's approval and he know's your history if your going to go through with another procedure. I wish you the best in your future and...GOD BLESS!!!

Answer 7

Well i dont want to tell you how to live your life but i am one of these people that is against abortion and i will tell anyone who ask me but that doesnt mean that other people cant have them. I think that you should just try to get help with your depression and keep this pregnancy because that could easily help you to cope with the fact of having another baby in your life and by telling yourself to keep going and dont give up "i am going to have another wonder in my life"

Answer 8

I would say at this point either have another abortion or consider having the child and allowing someone to adopt it, but you really need to decide if you want anymore children at a later time in your life, if the answer is no then i'd suggest having your tubes tied. good luck in your decision.

Answer 9

Sorry to say it, but keep your legs closed. If you don't want anymore children, don't have sex...it's as simple as that. You're 19 - you should be old enough to know what can happen.

If you don't feel you're ready for another child, carry full term and give the baby up for adoption - you were obviously meant to carry him/her, you just killed an innocent child and then God turns right back around and blesses you with another one.

I'm not trying to be mean, but it should be expected to hear something you don't want to hear when it comes to that subject. Sorry that you're going through this with your daughter though.

Answer 10

Stop opening your legs. Sex leads to baby... I know, it seems like every time I do and I'm not pregnant already, even with birth control I get pregnant again.

Answer 11

you could give it up for adoption. I would be happy to have another baby. Either way, for me or anyone, there are so many people that want babies that can't have them. Please do not abort. There are plenty of people who would love to have the baby.