Well, this has just been eating me alive, my friend who I known for two years all of a sudden tells me that she has feeling’s for me, that she has been falling for me more and more. I was kind of thrilled since I felt attracted to her but only saw her as a good friend, but then again devastated, because she say’s she wants to give it time, she want’s to be sure and does not want to rush right in to it now that I know. See the problem is that she told me this a while ago and will talk about it once in a while when we hangout, text, or talk in the phone, and I been falling for her more and more and it bites! I wish that she would not of told me at all until she was really sure about it, but she already told me and I just want to distance my self from her afraid that such a special person like her will break my heart and afterwards will just become apart and our relationship as friends will never be the same. There is the possibility that nothing may come out of this, and that’s what bother’s me, I really see now how much I really like this girl, and I would just wish to stop thinking of her, at times I don’t want to even talk to her because I get so caught up thinking about her that it hurt’s if you know what I mean. She worries that I will break her heart since she had been going out with some guy for a while and he left her for another girl about a year ago. And she is scared that I would do the same and leave her if she gives me all of her heart she say’s. She has said that she really likes me for how I treat her and talk to her, that I am a very different guy and very mature and she like’s me for me, and that she hope’s that I don’t change when I am with her. But I already talked about it and assure her that I would not do such a thing to her, that I would not play with her feeling’s and I am who I am, why would I want to change, she knows my flaw’s as I do hers, we talked about everything, she is the only person that I can tell anything too, and she tells me everything as well. I been in a serious relationship before of three years and the girl left me for my bestfriend, so we been threw the same situation, so I know where she is coming from. I don’t know, I am so confused and scared at the same time, has this happen to any of you guy’s? And if so, what happen, and girls, give me some advised that may help me, you know how we guy’s can be so ignorant when it comes to women! Thanks! All of your answers will be highly appreciated!
2007-11-24 00:41:28 · 13 answers · asked by Bryan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Gosh! It sounds as if the two of you are scared stiff of each other!
Why don't the two of you do the normal thing and start dating. Go out together to various places. When the evening ends, kiss her on the cheek, and go home to separate beds.
Take it slow. It sounds like you could have something really nice and sweet there.
I think that you would find that it would start progressing into something else quicker than you imagine, and it sounds as if it would be good for both of you.
At stake is your friendship, but she forced your hand on this one.
2007-11-24 00:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The situation with this girl HAS changed already. You were just very good platonic friends and could have carried on like that indefinitely until she told you about her feelings for you. That changed everything. You can't now go back to being just good friends. You either have to end it, carry on feeling very uncomfortable, or move it along. There's risk in everything so you can't get away from that either. You say you have similar feelings for her. You've both been hurt before and don't want to be hurt again - but you know eachother well and it doesn't sound like either of you would deliberately hurt the other. I think you should have a heart-to-heart with her and start going out together tentatively as boyfriend/girlfriend and just see how it goes. You don't have to do anything quickly do you. Go out on a few proper dates with her with a goodnight kiss or two and see what happens. The worst would be that you found you weren't compatible as a couple and then you could possibly move back to your old, relaxed and friendly mode. At best, you could become a loving couple. Good luck.
2007-11-24 00:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by chris n 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie, have you told her everything you've shared with us? It sounds like neither of you really want to lose your close friendship. That's nice but you should ask yourself if you will be happy just like it is the rest of your lives OR do you want more from one another (sounds like it to me).
If so take a chance. You really won't know until you try. Sitting around thinking (worrying) about it will prove nothing. While it's true that once you take the leap your relationship will not be the same - it could be better -why not hope for the best instead of worrying about the worse that could happen?
Live life - Love hard! You never lose when you love someone, only when you pass up the opportunity to love someone. What's the old cliche? -- "It's better to have LOVED and lost than to never have Loved at all?" How true!!
Peace.....
2007-11-24 00:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by Lily S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think shes thinking the same thing you are about your relationship as friends ending if this goes no where.. or if it does and ends..which i'm not gonna lie..your friendship won't be the same anymore. I think the next step for you guys is to be together but I don't get why she says she needs time she shouldn't have told you she had feelings for you and then say oh wait i gotta think about it...thats just unfair. she olviously knows everything about you and should trust you ( even though its hard to trust people) i went through a bad relationship being cheated on and treated badly.. then i met someone and just talked for a few months..he convinced me to leave my boyfriend and it took me a while but he promised me I could honestly trust him and we just went for it. We're still together and happier then ever! I think you should just go for it! tell her.. your friendship won't ever be the same and how much you care for her..tell her she can completely trust you and you need to just take the next step!! Or tell her you will wait as long as it takes if that means you get to be with her but you want to know if shes going to still want you so your not waiting for nothing..sorry she just seems very confused...hoped this helped at least a tiny bit
2007-11-24 00:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by <3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 02:05:47 · answer #5 · answered by maduro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry - lost the plot before halfway stage - if I get the jist of things - she likes you and you like her - SOLUTION - TALK to EACH OTHER and tell ech other how you feel.
If you don't you will both be like this forever and a day.
Oh! And talk to her like a human being - on a one to one level - no jokes - no silly comments - go out for a drink togather to a nice quiet pub and TALK
2007-11-24 00:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by jamand 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the fact that you already know each other intamantly as friends is a huge plus. The only thing left now is humility. I would outright propose.
2007-11-24 00:46:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you havn't got time to play her silly @## games! that it hurts to much, to either jump in the car with you or walk alone or with someone else. people who supposably care so much about someone don't play with there head like that.
you know how she's making you feel,it's not a pleasant feeling. it's torture, and if she will so easily torture you now, she will do the same to you in the future
2007-11-24 00:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by Terriblterry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
grow a pair of balls and talk to her about your feelings, what do you want us to do? Sort your whole life out for you! Start acting like a man and not a soggy lettice leaf, i'd expect this from a girl!!!!
2007-11-24 00:47:45 · answer #9 · answered by MrPink 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
jesus thats a long problem, any chance you could make it smaller i can't be arsed reading all that
2007-11-24 00:46:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋