im 23 years old, me and my bf have 3 kids together and we've been together for 8 years but we arent married. we live by ourselves in an apartment and around february we're gonna get our own house. before he used to say that he wouldnt marry until he was like 30 years old but now he says he wants to marry me but it hasnt happened. whuts the hold up?
2007-11-24 00:20:16 · 9 answers · asked by ♥Lovely♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
do not rush this make sure he and marriage is what you both want you are living together and have kids the only extra thing you get out of getting married is a piece of paper and a better tax return
2007-11-24 00:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by Fergie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whuts the hurry? A piece of paper is worthless unless two people want, and I mean truly want to marry and become a unit. And I do mean "both" of you. Why don't you ask your b/f to marry you? Why don't you ask him whuts the hold up instead of asking us our opinion? We don't know him or you so we can only speculate. If you push him then you are not letting him do what he wants to do. How would you like to be pushed? If he says he wants to marry you then start showing him wedding sets from catalogues and magazines and talk a lot about marriage and see if that doesn't prompt him. Or cause him to run away. Ouch.....Maybe he wants to wait until you two buy that house. See, we can only guess why he hasn't married you yet. It will happen if he wants to marry you, so ask him flat out. (smile)
2007-11-24 08:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no reason for him wanting or needing to marry you, sorry....
If he didn't propose after two years of serious dating, and especially if he didn't show good character and ask you the minute he found out you were pregnant with the FIRST child -- it's not going to happen. You've given it all up.... by shacking up and making babies with him already...
2007-11-24 08:26:46 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you really need to ask him! And then ask yourself, why are you playing house, without marriage, if marriage is your goal. I mean you guys live together, you have already created your family, whats the difference?
2007-11-24 08:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he. You are a married couple without the papers or the tax credit.
2007-11-24 09:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like he's getting everything he needs without the commitment of marriage.
2007-11-24 10:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by Who Knew? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is afraid to get married. He is stalling you. You need to decide if that is okay with you or not and address his fears. If it is not okay, then say so, set a date with him and do it.
2007-11-24 09:10:13 · answer #7 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah that sounds really weird.
maybe he doesnt wanna have it tied down.
2007-11-24 08:25:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him
2007-11-24 08:23:07 · answer #9 · answered by Sheila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋