A 'friend' told me I should limit the time I spend with my fiance because if I spend too much time with him, he'll think he can cheat on me and I'll forgive him. She says that's how men think. I think it sounds like hog wash.
From a guy perspective, what do you think?
2007-11-23 22:32:44 · 18 answers · asked by . 6 in Health ➔ Men's Health
I think you are right...hogwash
bet the advice came from some one who had a bad experience with b/f who cheated. there is a big difference in spending time with and being clingy. as long as you and your b/f agree on time together, you are ok!
2007-11-23 22:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by fretochose 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Spending time together is a good thing. How much depends on your relationship. For some people a couple of hours aday so good, some too much and some too little.
As for the cheating. If he's a jerk, he'll do it not matter how much or little time you spend. Don't be palying head games and ignoring him or hard to get.
If he cheats, dump him. Then if you take him back, he'll know he can cheat on you and nothing bad will happen.
2007-11-24 14:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by Jdude 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree but for a different reason. It has been proven that "Love" is no more than brain chemicals that are stimulated by another person, sight, scent, and touch are major players in this reaction. Constant exposure to the stimulus however causes a marked drop in these brain chemicals and thus falling out of love, which never happens at the same time for both partners and usually at a time when an economic codependence takes place. It doesn't have to be from a guy perspective or a girl perspective, it is just a human perspective.
2007-11-24 06:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's good to spend a lot of time with your fiance....but some guys need their personal space.....especially if "spending time" means watching girly movies/shows and watching you shop. But no I don't think a guy would cheat if you spend too much time with him....guys normally cheat if you're not good in or unwilling to do certain things in bed or if you are butt-ugly and he is just lying when he says that looks don't matter.
2007-11-25 21:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by GH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree about not spending too much time with him, but for a completely different reason. I think if you spend all the time with him, you will smother him and he might become bored with you. That will make him more likely to cheat on you. On the other hand, if you spend enough time with him to keep him interested and coming back for more, he is more likely to be faithful because he will miss your company. It's in a guys nature to "chase" women. But if you are always there, then he has nothing to chase, so he will begin to chase something/someone else instead.
2007-11-24 09:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's hog wash! If a guy is going to cheat, he's going to do it no matter how much time you spend with him.
Has your friend been in a relationship where her man cheated on her?
2007-11-24 09:25:28 · answer #6 · answered by bender_xr217 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Once again, proof that females lack the organ that enables thinking & logic ! It's nice to see Tash, that you have the horsesense to know it's a stretch.. That's one of the stupidest concepts I've seen in this forum.
2007-11-24 13:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is "Crazy!" Too much time together can drive a guy away but, if he is a cheater he will cheat no matter what. If you both enjoy each others company what's you problem?
2007-11-24 10:16:05 · answer #8 · answered by Dick B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It could be your friend is sensing something, but it could be she's jealous, too. Even tho you asked for guy's opinion, I'm chiming here just to say I've heard of this years ago, and it still could be true that "familiarity breeds contempt", but I fell head over heels with my hubby before we got married (now for 28 years) and we just wanted to be with each other. Nurture this "getting to know you" as if it were a tender plant you want to really take hold and grow, Share mutual interests but also extend yourself to do things he likes to do so there won't be this lack of interest on either side. Make sure you really invest in worthwhile and indepth discussions on important issues so it's not "just chemistry" that's guiding the relationship. Be a person of virtue so there is a heroine of valor to admire, too. Do random kindnesses irregardless of the benefactors. I hope all goes well, and I wish you God's blessing on your friendship. May it grow under His faithful care with His blessings on your marriage. Before you have major disagreements (maybe you won't), get to know Jesus Christ who gives us wisdom and wants to get to know you and offers eternal life. He truly is our Bridegroom who loves each one best. Jesus says, "I've come to give you life abundant." He really wants you to have the best and lasting relationship in marriage. Read one of the gospels this Christmas season-- maybe even together. It really can bond you very closely based in a love relationship with our loving Creator who knows what is best for us.
2007-11-25 01:47:54 · answer #9 · answered by Cordelia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be true but not necessarily. It depends to a great extent on how attractive you are. The more attractive you are, the less you have to worry about stuff like that.
You should never monopolize a man's time though and never EVER follow him into his cave when he wants to be alone and work things out. Guys need time to themselves sometimes and they resent people trying to barge in on them, no matter who it is.
2007-11-24 06:38:49 · answer #10 · answered by 2kool4u 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋