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Question

so my b/f and i have been together for almost 5 years on and off, and we have been on for 11 months now, the problem is.... although we have trust issues and im really nosy, i had just looked into his cell account and found he has been txting an old fling, now one problem with the account is that when i looked at the text messeges there were alot from her but the texts i have sent, a the exac times i sent them (i checked) didnt show, anyway i love him so much and i dont want to loose him and i know once i cnfront him he will blame me for lookng what do i do, believe the thing is cell account is flawed (bc it is somehow) and move on or confron him and probobly lose him or i dont know i am freaked out wha should i do????

the thing is i checked the account at tmobile not his phone so i dont know how it has her texts and time and everything and only some of mine, on his phone however he has all mine... i dont get it

Answer 1

Take the cell phone and throw it into the ocean, a river, or a lake and when he asks about it pretend that you know nothing. After this move on with your life.

Answer 2

Well, although there are trust issues...since this really is going to effect your relationship from here on out, I would say that you really should confront him about it. If you don't you're always going to be left wondering until something happens to resolve that wonder, if anything ever happens at all. But you should think about your approach. You're in the wrong for looking at his cell account, but then again...if you two have been together for so long and are now long term then he shouldn't have anything to hide. I would say that you're going to have to approach it calmly and apologize for not respecting his privacy, but also asking him if there are things that you should know about. Because if he's feeling anything for this old fling, then it really isn't fair to you or him. It's keeping you stuck in the present and not moving onto the life that you could have together. And after all of this happens...I think it is safe to say that the two of you should sit down and figure out exactly what is wrong in the relationship and work out the problems. Compromising things, like say people that may cause this kind of speculation from the significant other. And then making promises that won't be broken. If it's going to be something that will always bother you it's better you find out now rather than later what the outcome is meant to be.

Answer 3

Trust is a huge part of any long term successful relationship. In the overall scheme of things....texting an old friend is no big deal, but where there is smoke there is usually fire. The cell phone account being flawed is a non issue....either you trust him and continue the relationship or you don't and you need to cut your losses and move on. Good luck with whatever you choose.

Answer 4

You looked and don't like what you found--it is wrong to spy--but you know that. You will never get an honest answer--you will NEVER feel the same about him--you know there are NO mistakes with the phone company--so just find a reason to move on--don't explain anything--just move on--if he says anything about it--tell him YOU have decided to stop wasting your time with him--it is YOUR choice--you owe him NO explanations. You know he is f--king that other girl--so why punish yourself over it. Stop with the drama--get a grip--stand up and walk away. If you stay--you have got mental problems and get what you deserve. Now get moving !! He disrespected you and you spied on him--you are both wrong--it's over !! Lose him?? Lose what?? a lying cheating bastard !! It doesn't matter if it is 5 days or 5 months or 5 years--it is OVER.

Answer 5

I presume he can delete a message? So he's deleting yours and keeping hers? Guess what! The cell phone account probably isn't flawed. Look at it this way: you have two choices. Keep him knowing he's texting his old gf, or lose him. Which do you want? Because you don't get the third choice, where he's faithful to you. Personally, I'd leave him and find someone else; it sounds like this isn't a healthy relationship.

Answer 6

Aww, thats so sad! Does your dad have an uncle to go with or something? Just tell him (preferably when he's in a good mood =]) in a nice way, like "Dad, you know that Miley Cyrus/ Hannah Montana Concert thats coming soon? I've really wanted to go to this and (your cousin) bought tickets for me awhile ago. Its unfortunately on the same day of the game, but it would mean the world to me if i could go to this concert!Do you think it would be ok if i went to this instead of the game? I know I want to go to it more than anything! Maybe you could go with (your uncle) instead?" lol, just an example, it might be kinda cheesy, but you gotta tell him somehow! Good luck, and i hope you make it(and have fun)! The Jonas Brothers were awesome--i must say..=]

Answer 7

This is a tough call. Five years is a long time even if you were taking breaks. How old of an ex is she? Are the messages just talk or are they naughty? I'd confront him calmly and tell him what you did and see what he says. He might be angry that you were invading his privacy, but you could tell him that he means so much to you that you don't want to lose him and talk HONESTLY about this girl he's texting. Men only *get it* if you confront him and are honest.

Answer 8

5 yrs is a long time and only u know how to hand the situation best. my personal opinion is to move along with ur realationship at a slower pace so u dont get as hurt. if it continues? dump him because the longer it continues, uve wasted a couple more months or ur life and probably will be in a worst shape. i hope u make the right decision and are okay in the end :]

Answer 9

well if he would leave you for this i don't think it could truly work long time.
but,i suggest STOP LOOKING THROUGH His STUFF.
if you want to be in a long relationship you need trust and i know it may seem bad judgment you should ask him why he is text his old girl fling .because then you could feel better about this

Answer 10

Well to be honest,I think you are better then that.You should not have to endure punishment.If you are doing it to then there a problem and I say counseling or break up.I don't believe in adultery or cheating.It is a sin and if he is doing you wrong he does not deserve you.