I habe tried everything I can think of, but he is a brat. He has a losey temper, lies, steals, the whole 9 yards. Its been getting worse over the past couple years (hormones?) He's been in councling, they say he's fine. I've tried reward systems, extra chores if he's bad, grounding, corpral punishment, taking away his belongings- I even took his whole bedroom away once!!
If anyone can advise me I would appreciate it
2007-11-23 19:24:01 · 10 answers · asked by dogwhisperer16 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I am his mother. He has never had a step parent and does not know his father (he's a piece of crap). He's a brat at school too... He has been to the Dr and was tested for learning disabilities- none noted. I unfortunately can not pick him up and take him to school, because of my job he rides the bus. My mom just retired and she watches him while I am at work. He is very disrespectful to her
2007-11-23 22:27:53 · update #1
Look into a parenting program called 'Parenting With Love and Logic'. You can find it at your local library on tapes, CDs or books. It is wonderful! Can be started with toddlers or at any time after. It is easy to listen to. I learned about it through a course offered by our school district. It puts the fun back into being a parent, yet, at the same time, teaches you how to raise self confident, reliable children. Children who learn how to make choices, children that you can trust to make the right choices in their lives. Check it out, you wont regret it.
2007-11-23 19:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by territizzyb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you this boy's Mother or are you a step-parent? Someone may have said he was fine, but other counseling might do the trick, Talk to your doctor, he may have emotional issues. Look into a parenting class for yourself or maybe anger management could be needed. Let him know you love him and want to help him because you do love him. Have you spoken to his school? Is he a problem for his teachers, or is school-time different? This is a really rocky age to deal with, and it is definitely not easy. Look into as many sources of information as you can. I hope you can have a better time with this. Wishing you well
2007-11-23 21:00:43 · answer #2 · answered by older is wiser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like my oldest brother at his age. My parents took him to juvenile hall to let him have a looksie. That worked for a minute. He spent one night in real jail at 15 for stealing a friend's mom's car. He got scared for a minute. When he was 17 he joined the army because he was "sick and tired of people telling him what to do". Haha!
Unfortunately, I think you'll just have to put up with his crap or ship him off to the state juvenile rehab center just to get him out of the house. He's making this mess for himself. You're trying so hard, but there's only so much you can do. My parents tried everything they could think of and my brother still took off. He's a wonderful man now, but oh my...he was a terror during his teenage years. :(
2007-11-23 19:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by siava101 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
old fashioned timeout? If he's going to act like a terrible 5 year old at the age of 13 then maybe its time to go back to square one? maybe telling his parents more so about his bad behavior and make sure they dont blow it off, (IT IS their kid anyways). Or even trying to reason with the kid, U cant do what u want until I get what I want or even rewarding him when he is good, like he did his homework so you take them out for ice cream. That way he'll learn that if he's good... he gets treats. If that doesnt work.... then consult the parents asap.
2016-04-05 06:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by Donna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take away his freedom.
By this, I mean but a lock on his window, his door. Take away all of his belongings. Pick him up, drop him off from school. He goes nowhere except to school, home, and back. Sounds like an intervention is in-order - better now then later.
Good luck.
2007-11-23 20:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in modern america many people are afraid to beat their kids, im 13 and if i step out of line my dad beats my ***, like they said put him in a heavy duty detention center or beat him enough to where he stays in line, general punchings and kickings work but if you want a 1 inch pvc pipe like 3 or 4 feet long with a hard hit to back, shins, legs, arms he'll stop what hes doing, if you dont beat them they get the skewed prospective that their parents have no control and they are the boss, so do them a favor and hit them. My cousins dad didnt beat him and he is the worst kid ive ever seen, hes gonna drop out at 16 he smokes and drinks and steals. If his dad would of applied heavy beatings he wouldent be like that. hope this helps.
2007-11-23 20:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Make him take part in the punishment. For ex. if he screws up on his next report card, he loses a cd for every bad grade. Then, make him smash it with a hammer.
2007-11-23 19:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by deirdrezz 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It may seem hard, but if you give him A scare-like 1 night in
juvie, it might help :~)
2007-11-23 19:28:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he doesnt behave......... tell him you wont let him out to smoke Drugs and do Happy-slapping with his mates.
2007-11-23 19:27:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
check with your local law enforcement. they will advise you better.
2007-11-23 19:29:51 · answer #10 · answered by Joe 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋