My partner and i broke up a few days ago.
I have plenty of friends to help me and guide me through the seperation process and to show me how to get her back but my ex has know one to talk to!
I have asked one of her old friends who i trust and get along well with to offer suport to my ex and help her work out her feelings for me.
Was this an ok move?
2007-11-23 14:29:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I should also add that she doesn't like admittin when she is wrong.
2007-11-23 14:39:56 · update #1
This was an awesome move! Just because you break up with someone doesn't mean you suddenly stop caring for them. It doesn't mean you automatically shut off your empathy for their well-being. The move you made shows you are leading the way to maintaining a possible future friendship. She doesn't have to know that you guided this person towards her, yet you will know in good conscious that you have still provided some comfort.
2007-11-23 14:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by Dana C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm..I wonder what happened. You said you are getting help from friends to get her back, so she broke up with you. And then you want one of your friends to talk to her to 'work out her feelings for you'...which sounds more like 'convince her to get back with me'. I think it was caring of you to do that since she dosen't have friends to help her out, but I wonder what your true motives were. Helping her, or helping yourself by getting info from your friend about what she is saying, and convincing her to come back to you. You also said she dosen't like admitting she is wrong, so that means you think she made a mistake breaking it off? That is okay, and hopefully she will realize she wants to be with you and you two can be together again and be happy, just make sure you heart is clear with your motives about this and don't try to manipulate the situation. It sounds like that is possible since you are attached to people who might influence her decisions and thoughts. I would let some time pass. Let her realize whatever she needs to, whether that means being with you or not. It sounds so corny and cliche, but if your heart is clear and your intentions are clear (without forcing ANYTHING or interfering) you will be together when, and if it is right. Good luck to you!
2007-11-23 22:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by aes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that was wrong, if you guys broke up then she doesn't want you or your interactions. Point is just move on with your life afterall you arent obligated with someone who amounts to a complete stranger are you?
2007-11-23 22:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by Big Boss 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like desperation. Let her work this out for and by herself.
2007-11-23 22:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it was a good idea.
If your ex wants to be with you, she won't need anyone to guide her back in your direction.
2007-11-23 22:37:57 · answer #5 · answered by moniquesexy75 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. You are no longer part of her life. Move on, she did.
Good luck.
2007-11-23 22:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, this has nothing to do with her... it's all about you and how good you'll look for doing it.
2007-11-23 23:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by BitterSweet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was a perfect move. i think that's really nice of you. and it's really sweet that you still care enough for her to make sure that she's ok.
2007-11-23 22:39:02 · answer #8 · answered by laura 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sure, but if you broke up, why are you keeping track?
2007-11-23 22:39:07 · answer #9 · answered by Banker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋