Am I doing things wrong in my life, and am I being a horrible friend?

Question

I feel as if I have been doing things wrong in my life. I think it might be because I am a little paranoid about things. For instance, if I'm talking to a friend and thy act even the tiniest bit weird I think that they hate me or something. Also, I have no confidence or self-belief what so ever. I think that I'm at the bottom of a pit and I can't get out. I feel that if I told my best friend, the person i trust the most, about my problems he would hate me forever. As well as this, my best friend is moving far, far away. I don't know how I'm going to be able to handle when he moves. The thing is, i have moved around so much - i never stayed in a place for longer than 3 years at the most. However, i have stayed in this location for just over 7 years, and have built up a really good friendship. I just dont want to lose that. Also, because of my lack of self-confidence, i dont have the courage to ask any of my friends to do anything with me (go and hang out and stuff). Can someone help?

I really fear rejection. I think that may be my biggest problem. i just want to be able to do things without worrying about them.

Answer 1

It sounds as if you have a self-esteem problem and are a little insecure about how your friends feel about you. Trust yourself a bit more, and your friends. I doubt they will desert you if you are honest and just be yourself. You may be hesitant to ask them to do things with you because you fear the rejection you will feel if they say no. ....The only way to conquer this is to take a chance..just ask them to do something with you. Pick a time when they are most likely not to have plans, make sure the activity sounds like fun and then take a chance. If they say no, just smile and say ok, maybe next time. Try to remember that other people are seldom as focused on us as we are on ourselves.
It is hard to lose a good friend but just stay in touch and try to form new relationships with others you meet. That is what we all have to do, it is part of life.

Answer 2

There are many people experiencing little hurdles, just like you. Don't be afraid.....talk with a counsellor, its only by communicating with the right trained person, that will elieviate your fears, help you to sort feelings out and goals, and before you know it, you'll be oozing with great self-esteem, confidence, and will be pressing forward to achieving some short range goals. Its not the end of the world. but, Hey! don't go sharing your personal private details with other friends, it only burdens them down, and then They have to find someone to unburden themselves. You can do this!!
help is at hand. and all the best, for seeing your difficulty and prepared to doing something about it, now!!! Go for it!!

Answer 3

Sorry to hear your friend is moving. I know how you feel, I moved a lot too and lost a bunch of friends along the way cuz of that. Just relax, it sucks to be alone, just take it slow. maybe start by asking one friend to hang out do something, watch a movie, whatever. Even if you make one more friend that person could lead you to more socialising.
If things feel really bad never be afraid to look for professional help to get you through a difficult time. No matter how alone you may sometimes feel, just remember there's always someone out there to help.
Good luck!

Answer 4

There is something wrong with this picture you suffer from Low Self Esteem you need to stop beating up on yourself it sounds like you put yourself down to much and you should'nt do that.If a person is truly your friend then they'll always be there no matter how far away they move. That my dear is the meaning of friendship,Ask your friends to do stuff with you.

Answer 5

if you really love your friend you should be honest with him and tell him how you feel you gonna have to somehow built up some courage and tell cause your freinds are one the people that can help you built yourself confidence you have to somehow do something cuase you dont get out of your comfort zone you will never grow u i will stay n dat box u have to exercise your mind n go places n do things n jst cuz your freind is moving doesnt mean that you cant be freinds no more i had move from my best freinds and we still are freinds n now are bond is even stronger you kno they didnt invent the telephone for nothing now

Answer 6

I don't know why you are not sure of yourself. If they are your friends then you should have already built that trust relationship that you can tell them anything or ask them anything. Also if they are your friends then they wouldn't mind going out with you. Just ask. That's the easiest way of doing something by doing it. If you don't do it in time you will have your regrets trust me...I think that you are as well having low-self-esteem issues so talk to someone its the best way. It gives you peace of mind! :)

Answer 7

These are common fears for young people. It's not easy, but the only way to get over it is to force yourself to go and do things with other kids. I heard a quote once that stayed with me "We would worry less about what other people think of us if we knew how rarely they do"... it's true, everyone else has insecurities too, the aren't focusing on you. Learn to laugh with yourself and others. If you put your mind to it and try hard, it won't be long before it goes away.

Answer 8

You're lack of self-esteem is making things so much harder.
And there isn't anything anyone can say to that.
You look it up online or in books, and they tell you to make a list of your strong points. How are you supposed to do that if you don't like you?
Anyways, you're gonna need someone to fall on, so start inviting more people to do stuff. Everyone needs someone
=)
good luck