ok so I have twin girls 2years old
when i gave birth the babies father wasnt there so they got my last name since there he provides all the money part he does not live with us he live in a different state 2 hours from here everything was going ok but i told him that we can be friends nothing else because im done with him now he said to me that he want the babies to carry his last name which I dont have problem with they have the rite to carry his last name. but now his telling me that he will take my doughters away from me ? I have no mental problems i dont do drugs there is no men in my house i took care of my kids from day 1 bymyself n is not easy with twins they got all their medical records up to date they are very acive and im the mother of course i want my babies to stay with me his lawyer called me to ask for the ssn because the have to pass a DNA test before he changes the last name n he is telling me that he will take them away from me can he really do this ??
2007-11-23 12:09:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he doesnt live with me , plus he was in jail 5 years ago drugdealing thats why i told him this is it he dont want to change
i dont want to go to jail i have my kids to take of thats is why we dont lived together
2007-11-23 12:13:12 · update #1
i did not get a lawyer his lawyer called 3 hours ago that why i have to wait until moday i need relief now I will have a heart attack if I wait till monday n no i dont want my girls to have his last amne but but is no big deal but a want them with me is neen 2 years he cant take they are like my heart i will die if this happens
2007-11-23 12:23:43 · update #2
First make sure any tests done will be paid for by him no matter what. All the DNA tests will prove is if hes the birth father but doesnt necessary give him any rights other than being the father. If what you told us is true, then he cannot prove you to be unfit to be the mother and no matter what he says or does will change the custody. He and his attorney will try to settle this outside of court as this is the only way it would ever work. NEVER agree nor definitely never sign anything from him or his attorney no matter what they say,for if you do the courts cannot reverse or undo whats been done. Contact your local legal aid assoc for free help if you need it or let me know at thunder_wright@yahoo.com if you have no one else available to you and Ill try to help you and get back to you ASAP. This is totally up to you an everything remains strictly confidential between you and I by law
2007-11-23 12:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
before i start I'm not a lawyer i must admit i really feel for you what you need to remember is 9 times out of 10 any judge will almost always give custody to the mother if she is not dependent on drug/alcohol or have no history of a mental nature and can support there family and with this guy having a criminal record well your already way ahead do not let him intimidate you always remember your the mum and always will be dont do anything silly let him spend his drug money on lawyers and what ever you just look after your babies (more fool him)!! i will be thinking about you hope it all works out for you :)
2007-11-23 20:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by smiler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the advice of an attorney. If he sues for custody and you do not have an attorney representing you he could create a severe problem. If necessary go to your local legal aid program or call an attorney that offers free consultation visits.
The attorney knows the way around the court system so he can best represent you in this matter.
I do not understand your statement that "you do not want to go to jail". I do not feel you have much to worry about, especially in light of your contributions to the girls vs. his. Then there is his prison record (not the fact that he served time-BUT WHAT HE SERVED IT FOR).
Dr. Tommy Skelton
2007-11-23 20:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by tskelton155 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, they don't have to have his last name. If he isn't man enough to be their FATHER (instead of just being the sperm and child support donor) then let them have your name. Do you want your children having the last name of some drug dealer????
Second, he cannot take your children away from you unless he can prove that:
1. You are an unfit mother (doing drugs, abusive, etc...)
AND
2. He is a better parent. I don't think he could handle that one.
Be a great mom. Keep him AWAY from those kids.
2007-11-23 20:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you go to jail?
I wouldn't worry. Only an insane judge would take children away from a fit mother.
Like he said....go to Yahoo Answers Law section.
2007-11-23 20:23:11 · answer #5 · answered by purplewaterhorse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a family Law Attorney, by the way look for an answer in Law section of yahoo answers
2007-11-23 20:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you call a lawyer Monday morning,
call the x and all you are to say to him, "my lawyers phone number is --- ----. don't you talk to him again, EVER.
he can not take your kids but on the other hand don't make it easy for him to try either. move if it will make you feel better. you don't have to notify him of your address you have no custody agreement. change your phone number too.
do not give out any ss# to anyone ever!!! not yours or those of your children.
2007-11-23 21:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why would you be going to jail?
Second, is his name on the birth certificate?
Third, Based on what you've said there's no reason that you could take your children.
Fourth, you do need to get an atty.
2007-11-23 21:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by StressedLawStudent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..he is just scarring you into taking him back...He has to prove beyond a doubt that you are unfit to care for your children..He has been in jail for heavens sake...You sound like a very good mom..Be proud of your self..Good Luck
2007-11-23 20:37:15 · answer #9 · answered by wilma s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOM! Get a lawyer!
2007-11-23 20:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋