I find it a little intimidating and as though I'm not "experienced" enough. I'm at 8. What if she is proud of all them and still thinks about them and it turns her on?
2007-11-23 12:00:15 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Run!!!
2007-11-23 12:04:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well there are some up tight females still around. If you care for her, then don't worry about the other before. If a guy judged me for the lovers I have had before him, he would be gone. It is my life, and I don't take kindly to someone making me feel guilty about what I have experienced. Just because she has had more lover's than you, doesn't mean she has experienced more than you. Trust me, there are few men who know how to really make a woman's body sing. That is what you have to focus on. Sounds like she is open minded, so that is the best way to turn her on, be open minded. If you can't, then that is your lose, so move on.
2007-11-23 20:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by Iam!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its so sad that people in the 21st Century still feel that its ok for a guy to have as many partners as possible and put it down to him being well experienced etc etc yada yada yada... And a woman having that many is not a decent person. How would a woman know how to satisfy her man if she doesnt have enough practice. Where would she get the knowledge from. Stop thinking about what has gone before and look at what you have now. I doubt she's comparing you to anyone but is living in the moment. Why cant you accept that and concentrate on the woman and the relationship you have with her. Or are you that shallow?
2007-11-23 20:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by chiccigyal 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
did she ever actually say that she is proud of them and it turns her on? would you feel better if you went out and had 8 more sex partners? would that really make a difference?
is she a good person? will she be a honest and faithful wife, a good partner, a good mother? this is what matters. most people have a past. the pst is just that the past.
get over yourself and kill the male/female double standard. you are no virgin so don't you dare judge her. it sounds like you may have too many issues ofr a relationship with this woman.
BTW- having tons of partners doesn't necessarily make you more "experienced". it is the quality of sex not the quantit of partners.
2007-11-23 20:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by Roc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first it depends on how old you all are - if she is 20 and has had 16 lovers that may mean she sleeps around. if she is 40 then that is not as bad however i am 43 and have only had 5 lovers and two of them were husbands so 16 is a big number still. i wouldnt take it as she compares you with them. i doubt she even thinks of them. so dont take it so personally have an std test and get on with getting married if you love her and she loves you.
2007-11-23 20:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by livelongandprosper2000 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She only admits to 16. The truth is probably 2 - 3 times greater. Beware.
2007-11-23 21:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by Elmer Fudd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
16 doesn't seem like a scary number to me. I wouldn't worry about that. If you're concerned about your own experience lever - or more specifically, your competency as a lover, talk it out with her. I'm sure you'll find it's not a problem. She has chosen to be with you, don't worry about the past and don't ask her to feel sorry, ashamed or regretful about it.
2007-11-24 12:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by Rasputin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have only been with 1 person ... my husband
But 16 ..... that is really not that many even though it sounds like it .... just bc she has had 16 people doesn't mean that she cant be faithful or true to you ... She just has experience for you ....
and if you really are afraid bc she has been with a few people ... have her get a STD a check up, tell her you like her it would just make you comfortable for her to get ... you can even offer to get one with her
but dont judge her capability to be with you bc she has had a rambunctious past
2007-11-23 20:56:13 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Neil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you and it's obvious you're not liking it one bit. Why put yourself through that. So what she had more lovers than you..The point is she had sex with someone other than you in her past. It doesn't matter if it was 2 or 16.. If you're secure with yourself, which you're not, you wouldn't care..Why would you ask a woman how men she has been with? I'm surprise she told you that, some women would either lie or say none of your business....
2007-11-23 20:10:16 · answer #9 · answered by ksr79 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless your lover was in their 20s during the 60s, I would never consider marrying someone with that many partners. If she "is proud of all them and still thinks about them and it turns her on" then she is NOT a candidate for either a current or future sexual relationship. When was the last time she was tested?
Heck, when was the last time YOU were tested???????
2007-11-23 20:06:33 · answer #10 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First test for STDs..if all is Negative..date her because she is more experienced and will probably give you a time of your life in the sack..
Do enjoy spending time with her? Does she make you happy? Do you look forward to seeing her?...If you answered YES..then yes..date her..she just maybe the one for you..
2007-11-23 21:04:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋