I have been dating my boyfriend for over 8 months now. he is jewish and i dont have a religion. i grew up in a baptist family though. his mom really does love me she says so, but will not allow me to be part of the family becasue iam not jewish...should i accept that and move on....or can we make it? i want to marry him and i know he loves me very much...but how can i explain to him that iam okay with us raising our children jewish and that i do want to marry him???
2007-11-23 11:34:53 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, why not become Jewish? I know of some absolutely wonderful people who are Jewish. If it meant marrying the man of your dreams and being a part of a wonderful family, then I dont think it is too great a price to pay.
2007-11-23 11:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good luck! ALL Jewish mothers want a Jewish daughter in law for their son. If you arent Jewish you are a shischka (bad spelling) basically meaning non Jew. Most dont even want the girl to convert either.. Good luck again..
2007-11-23 11:39:29 · answer #2 · answered by 2kids mom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Becoming a part of HIS family is HIS decision, not his mother's. If she refuses to accept you that is something you will have to deal with, but he knows the rules and if he was either serious about his religion and/or serious about marriage he would NOT be dating you.
Has he asked you to marry him? If he hasn't, I wouldn't count on him doing so. Can you imagine what your life would be from the wedding until death do you part? You would be cut off from his family. He would have the stress of that....your children would not have their grandparents....and would have parents who don't agree on one of the most fundamental of all issues: God.
I'd back out now....it will avoid pain for everyone in the future.
2007-11-23 11:40:53 · answer #3 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. My mother was catholic and my dad Jewish. Mom converted to Judaism before marrying my dad (you shouldn't feel obligated to do this, by the way), but his family always referred to her as "the Shickza"...it's NOT a nice term for a non-Jewish woman married to a Jewish man.
My mom was nice and ignored it all and stuck with my dad through it all. What was most important was that she loved him and he loved her.
Just remind his family that your relationship is built on "Ahava", (Love, in Hebrew). They'll understand.
2007-11-23 11:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by Gary D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, i guess u dont get what his mother trying to explain.She says you are not jewish.In that case,YOU HAVE to join jews and their religion.and then,u can marry her son and to be part of the family.
The thing same as in Islam rules,
People whose not Muslims,they are not allowed to get married with another Muslims,Unless they are going to join Islam and be part of Islam.
SO in this case,u have to follow what has your future mother-in-law told you.This is not because she does not care about you or love you.
But this is about the togetherness and the happiness of the future!
think about it.You also dont care about raising your children as jewish in the future
So,I guess you should also join jewish as in religion way.
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thanks,I am a Muslim,tho
2007-11-23 11:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think you should work with it. you don't want to break up just because of his mom's opinion. i'm sure she will grow to understand you. best thing you can do to explain to him that you are okay with raising your kids Jewish and that you'll say yes when the question is asked, is to just tell him. i think you two can make it
2007-11-23 11:39:45 · answer #6 · answered by Kenton C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen, my mom is jewish and my dad is cathlioc. and my dad wasnt accepted into my moms family so many of my moms family stoped talking to her. but with out them being together i wouldnt have been born. dont give up your happiness for someone else, espescialy for this reason.
2007-11-23 11:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to consider converting. You will then be closer to his Jewish family and you will love it.
Good Luck
2007-11-23 13:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by Smart Nurse 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes jewish r acceptive
2007-11-23 11:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by Ryan G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do don't change your religion for anyone,, that's the first thing they want you to do if you want to get married
2007-11-23 12:59:01 · answer #10 · answered by biglou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋