Im 19 and my long term boyfriend and i have been having some problems lately. but we're working through it. so I told my mom one day just because i thought that shed be a good person for advice...what does she do, breaks down and cries and starts questioning me every 2 seconds "do you really think he loves you?" whenever I talk to her, its only about my boyfriend! and shes beeing going through my phone and trying to go on my facebook to find stuff out. and at night she cries and stuff. its been like this all week. im on the one whos going through the problem and I feel like I have to helo her through it! its crazy...I have never seen a mother this obsessed with a relationship. whenever im on the phone with him she wishpers to me what to say to him and she gets all mad if i walk away or just ignore her. then she tells me we're going to break up because I wont say what she wants me to say...shes always been crazy but it seems the older i get, the worse it gets. help!
2007-11-23 10:47:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your first mistake is discussing your relationship with your mother. No matter how good of a guy he is she will ALWAYS remember what he did.
(however - just because you aren't sharing with us, I will write this: If he is demeaning you, if he is abusing you - physically, sexually or emotionaly, if he is pushing you into doing something you are uncomfortable with - perhaps you should move on)
2007-11-23 10:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by Sister blue eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 I wouldn't share any relationship issues with her anymore, if you haven't figured that out
#2 You are 19 and she needs to respect your privacy as an adult. She obviously can not handle what you have been telling her.
#3 I would respectively tell your mother that U2 need to talk. Make it short, sweet, and simple. Mom, I am 19, then I would list what you take on for responsibilities, and I am considered a legal adult. You need to stop obcessing over my issues. I made the mistake in talking to you about them and now I need to fix it before we lose a good mother-daughter relationship. I respect your privacy, please respect mine and I will no longer burden you with my issues. Say this all with kindness and respect. If she freaks out, just tell her it's her problem and to leave you alone. I would change your accounts and stuff because from the sound of things, she won't drop this easily.
good luck.
next time, I would turn to a friend and not your mother, even a stranger..
2007-11-23 10:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by ~BluemoonAngel~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could just be causing trouble I have a friend who is doing the EXACT same thing to her babies dad. Its so childish. Does he have a child custodity agreement? If so she cannot say anything about you. She needs to just get over the fact that there are going to be other mother like figures in the childs life but for now it sounds as if she is not accepting of that. If he doesn't have a custodity agreement through a court I think he should go about getting one right away otherwise this could be a problem he will have for the rest of that childs life.
2016-05-25 03:38:36 · answer #3 · answered by susanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your mom DEFINITELY need to go to counseling together to talk about this with a professional. Your relationship with your boyfriend is absolutely none of her business. You are an adult, and if you and your BF break up, thats your problem, not hers. She souds very depressed and obsessive, conditions that can be treated with medication and talk therapy. Your conversations with your boyfriend are personal and private, and your mom should respect that.
Please seek counseling with your mom, for your sake and especially hers.
2007-11-23 10:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom is just being a mom. she wants to protect you but at the same time this could push you away. I think you should tell her that she did a good job by raising you and if she to respect that you will make the best decision for yourself. also that she needs to be there for you if your happy but also when your sad. sometimes women mistake their daughters as a best friend vs a parent. you can make a point by saying that she needs to be there for you when you come to her but not until then. my mother is my best friend but she does not overstep her boundries of being my mother. hope this helps.
2007-11-23 10:56:32 · answer #5 · answered by nolove68111 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol shes a mom that wants you to get knocked up and obliviously she lost out on a guy she loved you just need to tell her its not the same as it was with her and her boyfriend in the past
2007-11-23 10:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by YO mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell your mother to back off, that the subject of your boyfriend is off limits. Don't ignore her, but if she won't back off, you may have to enlist the help of a trusted relative or friend who has good common sense.
2007-11-23 10:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by Russell K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh WOW.
have you talked to her?
tell her HOW YOU FEEL,
it might be harsh.. but trust me it will be worth it.
and word it ina niceway, but get your point across.
if she still doesnt back off, then well maybe u should move out haha, or if thats not a possibility, try to be out more, or go see him in preson,somewhere that shes not. =)
sorry if this doenst help
much luck
xxxxxxx
2007-11-23 10:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by autumn x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first try talking to you mom I mean that happened to me with my bf and I asked my mom and she did pretty much the same I asked her to stop that I'd figure it out and she did and my and my bf are aok.
2007-11-23 10:53:09 · answer #9 · answered by Windy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what she's crying about. What she's doing are symptoms of something that's eating away at her.
2007-11-23 10:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by Richard B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋