I had to get a temporary restraining order against my husband, for Domestic Violence...Verbal abuse. My court hearing is coming up in 2 weeks. I have a 9 month old son whom is also on the protected order from his father. Does anyone know what I can expect, I have no money, I tried speaking to a lawyer and they charged me $100 dollars for a bunch of lawyer talk that didn't help much just to explain my case, then for them to help me for one court visit it would be $5,000. I know I have to do it on my own how can I prepare myself to ensure to keep my husband away from my son and I and to ensure I get granted custody???? Help anyone???
2007-11-23 10:45:01 · 6 answers · asked by strgmom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not sure of all of your legal resources but I do know that lawyers are very expensive! I did exactly the same thing a couple of weeks ago ! I sat through less than an hour of legal jargon & paid $100. All I left with was a bunch of advice & the knowledge that to go further he needs another $500.
2007-11-23 13:43:22 · answer #1 · answered by Me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had to do this except my complaint was physical abuse. I didn't have to pay anything, I went to the court with a copy of my police report, a temporary order was issued that day and a couple weeks later I had to go to court to have the 12 month restraining order issued. No lawyer was needed. But depending on your state, since you are a victim of domestic violence you are eligible for legal aid. I did not use a lawyer its very easy to do save your money.
2007-11-23 10:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by scorpiobutterfly31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is found guilty of domestic violence, he'll have to pay the court costs, so you don't need to worry about that.
A lot of these cases can be handled in judge's chambers instead of the courtroom, but you should be prepared to sit in the witness box in front of a lot of strangers & testify to the fact that you felt threatened when your husband said those words to you.
Assuming that he threatened to hurt you or your child, you have every right to seek a restraining order against him. On the other hand, if he testifies that all he did was call you a "nasty name" & the judge believes him....you may be responsible for paying for the court's time.
Right now, I'd say that your best course of action would be to contact your local abuse prevention council or battered women's shelter. In either place they can find a court advocate for you who will help you with documentation & be there for you each step of the way.
They will probably recommend that you also contact your local department of social services/child protective agency who may get a separate order to keep your husband away from your son.
2007-11-23 12:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by >>Phoenix<< 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, heres what will happen. You will be granted a restraing order. Your husband will not be able to come near you or your child for up to 4 years. He will be devastated. it will get worse and worse as time goes by. Youll feel sorry for im and contact him once or twice, or you will get mad and call the police when he does contact you, and then he will be arrested. Things will get worse. There is no greater pain then not being able to see your child. It is the worst feeling in the world. So if you MUST get a order, at least let him see his son once a week, or it will be the ugliest thing you have ever seen. Just imagine you not being able to see your child AT ALL, then tell me what your emotions would be like.......
2007-11-23 10:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by Paybackisamofo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I received a restraining order twice and never paid anything. He will be excommunicated from communication with you and child and he can't try to relay information through email, friends and family, etc.
Sorry you're getting jipped.
2007-11-23 11:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by lenise1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apply for legal aid
2007-11-23 10:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by James 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋