please!! women's opinions!!!!!?

Question

hey.im 14 years old. and i want to know what qualities in a young girl that older adults look for as mature and respectable. i want to stand out apart from my friends as "grown up". im not an adult, so i dont know what adults think about this. also, what characteristics about a teenage girl turn you off?
i really want the women at our church to think "wow shes really growing up," or "I really like that girl".
and also, when 14 year olds wear makeup, does it make adults think "oh shes just trying to grow up too fast" or do you think it makes them look pretty?
please, i need LOTS of advice. please help me!

Answer 1

show respect to your elders,
speak when spoken to, but don't chatter endlessly,
volunteer to help with any work,
try to be thoughtful of others,
if you really want to wear makeup, keep it very light and as inconspicuous as possible

Answer 2

All I have to say is people are going to have their own opinions. What some think are mature others view as stuffy or something. And some people are jealous and rude. So to avoid all this be your self and if that means that you have a child like attitude that okay. Because the first rule of being a adult is to feel confidence in your self that can be looked at as mature. And it wouldn't hurt if you act politely around the older ones and not get out of line or disrespectful. Which it doesn't sound like you will. So have fun live life and believe me adult hood will come soo enough. Then you might just wanna give it back.LOL Oh and nothing wrong with wearing make up but I would wear very little lip gloss and a little mascara wouldn't be too bad but not much more.

Answer 3

why are you trying to grow up faster than you should?
Take these years and enjoy them. Act like a 14 year old and that means the following in case you aren't already doing it.

1) Respect your parents.
2) Do very well in school. And always put your grades first.
3) Be responsible. Do the chores around the house assigned to you and if you don't have any chores to do, ask your mom how you can help out around the house...in other words...learn how to CLEAN properly and you'll have a greater appreciation later on in life for what you have.
4) Play sports or dance. You never know what you will really like out of life unles you take the chance to go out for cheerleading, dance (could be jazz) soccer, track, swim club, etc. but try them and see what you will be good at.
5) Don't start make up yet, it will make you look like a little cheap tramp.
6) Be loyal to your friends.
7) Don't spread rumors.
8) Respect others, friends, sibblings, adults, neighbors, teachers, everyone you come in contact with.
9) Common sense is the best approach to showing maturity.

Acting like someone other than who you really are is very unhealthy. If you are yourself and don't try to protrey someone that you aren't is showing how mature you are. Knowing WHO you are comes with years of experience, there is no handout on that subject. If you do the things above you will learn more about yourself, your likes and dislikes and why...Now to me, that's a mature 14yr old....
Oh and don't dress slutly, dress nice and don't worry about what the women at your church think, they will think better of you just from being kind, considerate and behaving in the manner of a 14 yr. not a 16 yr old...

Answer 4

I can see your points, but I also see my stand point. I'm 13 and I'm much like you, I don't like adults thinking I'm imatture- when i was nine I got mad when people told me I was cute when I'd act all grown up. I think, now I ain't no adult, But I think you should act your age- adults think it's immature to act older than your age it seems. But some tuips- don't be loud and obnoxious, wear makeup but don't be too bold/crazy, and also I've noticed that although it seems immature, trying to act mature makes you seem very young. I know quite a few young adults (20-24) have told me they think it's immature to say you don't like animated movies when you do, and it's immature to try to be all proper. Also you're a kid, just like me, but you wont' be for very long. You only got 6 more years to be a kid so be a kid and fun. Sure be mature and help your mom around the house help with younger siblings be responsible but you don't need to start dressing in suits, talking elegantly or denying how much you like 10 year old's shows. I've been told numerous times I'm mature and most people think I'm 3 years older than I am, not because of the way I look but how I act. I think the key is not to try to be mature persay, be responsible but still have fun. Hope I helped!

Answer 5

Be yourself. Be honest, helpful, and pay attention. Ask questions. There must be an adult that you admire and respect. Watch & listen to this person. When presenting yourself to others stand up straight, always look a person in the eye when speaking or listening. This shows that you are interested in what the person is saying. When you speak, speak clearly.

As for make up, well, I have never cared much for it, but I know girls your age like to experiment, but keep it light. I'm sure your own skin is more beautiful then anything on the market you could buy, so keep it clean and you will out shine all the rest of the girls. Natural is beautiful.

Things that make me nuts, that's easy, my grand daughter just left and she did this all week. Wearing headphones and carring an ipod around. Half the time she couldn't hear me, and the rest of the time she was screaming to talk to me over the music.

Answer 6

Take it from someone who works with thirteen-fourteen year olds as a carreer. The most annoying thing to an adult is a kid who is TRYiNG to grow up.

Growin up from a girl to a woman is not just about growing breasts and getting your period. But it's about desire and longing. Which sucks.

Girls hitting puberty always seem to long something whether it's a boyfriend, to be popular, rich, have sex, get good grades or be looked at as mature, it's always something.

So to answer your question; the qualities that make a young woman mature is not something you can act out, infact that is the exact thing that makes you immature. Be yourself. Don't try to grow up too quickly. Take it from me. Live your childhood to the fullest. Appreciate everyday. Don't try an grow up. You will, don't worry.

About wearing makeup; no. For me, young girls wearing make up is not a "turn off" as long as you don't wear it for the single purpose to attract boys.

I hope that this could help. Live your life to the fullest & love every minute; that's the best advice anyone could ever give you :]

Answer 7

I think class & elegance set a young woman apart from the run-of-the-mill-female-teen.

Really it's not so much about the makeup, hair, etc... as much as it is about your mannerisms and the quality of your countenance. The gossipy pretentious girls are the ones I usually ignore. The ones who look me in the eye, smile and are genuine... those are the ladies you can tell will grow into great women and would make good companions.

But if you'd like to impress the women at your church, just be polite and courteous. Try to put them and their needs ahead of your own - that shows maturity. And don't be afraid to look people confidently in the eye when you talk. You're just as important to your community as they are :). Don't forget that. They're not better because they're older, you're not better because you're younger... you're simply at different stages of life.

Best of luck!

Answer 8

Well, I remember when I was at your age, and I really wanted to be mature. I tried wearing make-up, but my mom told me to stop wearing it. I was crushed by this, because I wanted to be more like a women. I realize now that I was trying to grow up to fast. I think you should enjoy your teenage life, and I should know because I tried to grow out of mine way to fast. But if you really want my opinion, here's what I think:

I think if you want to be more mature to women, and stand apart from your friends, you should act politely towards friend's parents and also your family members. Help with dishes, and take more responsibility. Acting intrested and educated would be a nice touch too. Try wearing SUBTLE make-up, dont go to heavy. Heavy make-up doesn't always look that great, so I think that if you weat a little eye liner, and mascara, with a touch of eyeshadow, it will make you look older, but not overdoing it. Also, don't wear revealing clothes, because women don't always think highly of that.

Good Luck, but remember, Don't try to grow up TOO fast!!

Answer 9

Well, first off dont act immature. Try to be outgoing, but not obnoxious. Try to be kind and friendly but not over the top. And also, something i find very annoying in younger girls, is hitting. Don't hit people when they make jokes, or boys, or just in general...it makes you look stupid. And dont scream for no reason. Thats a really big turnoff, and most of all very annoying. Also, crack jokes but not ones that are on a very personal level. As well, give good advice to be friends, dont be stand-offish, and always be available to hang out with people that are outside of your group of friends. And makeup could be pulled off. Just dont wear tons of blue shadow or thick liner. I love and swear by Bare Minerals, and just some peach blush does wonders. I also wear light mascara, and very thin line of eyeliner halfway on the outer bottom lid, and a little on the outer/upper top lid. And most of all, remember to be yourself, and not try to conform to what other people want out of you. Be appropriate and bubbly, but not out of control. Hope this helps!

Answer 10

Be yourself. If you feel like wearing makeup, do it. If not, don't. You have plenty of time for all of this.

I know adult women who NEVER wear makeup and they look just great.

I'm sure the adults at your church (or anywhere) will be very understanding.

You're a teenager. That's a time to try new things, so go for it!!

Answer 11

When I have had people come and work with me on work experience, the people that stand out are the ones with initiative. The ability to do things and join in without being asked. And also being able to hold a conversation with interest in the activity at hand. Able to ask questions without fear of being wrong. That's very useful because it means you can pass on information knowing that the person will be honest if they can't cope.