Everytime my in laws call and I answer the phone they immediately ask for my husband and does not bother to find out how am I doing but when they speak to my husband they extend their regards to me. I dont understand.?
2007-11-23 10:09:29 · 9 answers · asked by aslem 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's because you haven't built a relationship with them. They probably don't mean to be rude, but I assure you that you don't want a conversation on the pretenses of not hurting your feeling. (they aren't worth the breath). I recommend finding common ground with them. My wife and my mother have become great friends and now my mother calls and just asks for my wife. You can also start the conversation when they call with showing interest in something about them. If you ask about, "so how did your doctor visit go", or any current event with them, they will begin to show interest in you as well. Opening these lines of communication takes practice.
P.S. If your in-laws are crazy, just keep in mind that you probably have conversation with crazy people at work or other places as well, so it is possible. good luck
2007-11-23 10:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by mbl75051 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In-laws do those silly things...mine do too..and I don't even bother to answer the phone
Well on the other hand my father in-law is great BUT my mother in-law is another story...Don't fight with your husband about this..you can tell him about it..
2007-11-23 11:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I identify with that ,My Husband is sadly no longer with us ,And only one out of his Large family rings me to see how I am ,But then I think we are all a bit guilty of it ,When I ring my daughter i always ask my Son in Law for my daughter ,
2007-11-23 10:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by Marion, 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband and them when all three are toghether about how you feel. If they get all huffy about it, get caller ID, that way, if they call, you can just let the phone ring or let your husband answer the phone.
2007-11-23 10:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make that extra effort to carry a conversation with them.
Before you know it, they will want to talk with you instead of your husband.
2007-11-23 10:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine used to do the same thing. Get caller ID (if you don't have it already), and when they call, toss him the phone and say "Its not for me." That's what I used to do, but my in-laws are NUTS too.
2007-11-23 10:21:37 · answer #6 · answered by Tami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happens all the time with me but I don't bother about it as they say there is nothing queerer than folk!
2007-11-23 10:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably dont realize they are hurting your feelings and they may not feel as close to you as they do their son.
2007-11-23 10:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mine do the same thing. They're wierdos.
2007-11-23 10:18:13 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋