Extended family members, friends and even co-workers love to pry into my life and find out what I do in the department of love. Lol. I don't get bothered about this, but when I am completely honest by telling people that I am happy being single, and will be for the foreseeable future, it's almost as if they get offended. "What do you want to be alone your entire life?" Says a divorced women who is living in sin with a married man. "You need to get a life, it must be so boring! I bet you are a virgin right?" Says the girl who cheats on her husband. LOL, they don't know that I haven't even had my first kiss yet, but I could only imagine what they would say.
2007-11-23 10:09:23 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It might even be that they are jealous of my life because I have no worries concerning intimate relationships. Also, I have very few bills as I still live at home because I have a very close family that encourages that, and I have simply no reason to move out.
2007-11-23 10:09:32 · update #1
They are concerned about your sexuality.
2007-11-23 10:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you already post this question before but in another way? About how people are "jealous" of you?
If so, then you know I answered that question. NOW that you have put it another way....
People are curious, they will always be curious...and sometimes they like to know if they have anything in common with you.
Also..as far a co-workers are concerned? Have you ever heard that song called.."Let's give them something to talk about?" Well you aren't giving them anything to talk about so that is THEIR problem, don't make it yours. And if they act offended in front of you...tell them they can move onto the next person in the office to talk about, you aren't giving them any information and walk away and laugh it off.
As far as the others you mentioned, tell them those who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones....
I live on my own, I am an adult and have "chosen not to have a relationship right now at this time in my life".
I do not seem to have any problem with what people say, most people just respect my decission.
The difference between you and me is that I don't live w/ my parents, I have grandchildren so you know I've already been married. I just choose right now, to not have to deal with the "Drama" that comes along w/ having a relationship right now.
So, if I were you and "those people" that give you a hard time? Your best response to them and shut them up because believe me, NO ONE can argue this point..
Is tell them, "Hey, I don't want the Drama in a relationship right now". It works everytime...
Oh and you are one of the lucky ones that do not have a lot of "baggage" in your life.
Keep your personal life to yourself, about "lack of girlfriends", no first kiss yet because they will draw their own conclusion that you are gay and I don't mean just happy :) ~
2007-11-23 18:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've gotten my heart broken a lot over my lifetime but I am happy for it because I got to find out what I didn't want.
And today I have everything I do want in a partner (eventhough we had a really bad fight last night worst of all time probably). But I am grateful.
I too feel at times that the risk is too painful (mine comes out with making friends and going for my dream job) but the rewards when I do risk are amazing. I needed to hear myself say that today.
It sounds to me like you are balanced and happy. Just take it for what it's worth when others talk to you. For one thing --it's fun to talk about someone else's love life (we get to re-live our own when we were first starting out this way.). Also, in a weird sort of way these people are expressing that they care about you. But they're also like you noticed, really just talking about themselves. We don't like in other people what we don't like in ourselves. But we don't see it in ourselves sometimes.
I think you're right on track.
I say that just keep doing what you're doing and if you want a relationship then read all you can about getting one and there will be bumps. But the bumps are opportunities to grow. we get to decide what we want.
All my best to you.
2007-11-23 18:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by sweets 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want and when they ask, act as if they commented on the rain. You should shrug and be non nonchalant about it. Also a lot of times when people ask they are seeing if you are "on the market" so your acting proper.There is no hurry and what really matters if YOU are happy.
2007-11-23 18:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by Jima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋