He says its just a piece of paper i say its the most important thing you can do in life and to best way to bring up children in.What is the point of being boyfriend and girlfriend forever i dont want that i want to get married!
2007-11-23 09:46:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with you that if you love someone enough to have children you should be able to commit to each other till death do us part. The point of marriage to me is that you agree to be monagamous and to do the best you can to provide for and support each other and your children. It is a covenant between both of you and GOD. I just wish the woman that i have loved for 22 years felt the same. I thought she did but ,last july she got me kicked out of our home and at christmas she moved her current lover in then in june had his baby. Marriage is till death due us part and i could forgive her. Your boyfriend doesn't want commitment because he is looking for something better. I'm sorry but that is the way it is.
2007-11-23 10:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jimbob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is NO commitment without marriage.A marriage license is written proof that 2 people have made a commitment to one another.A guy who does not want to get married never will and if you badger him into it he will resent you and eventually divorce you.
There IS NO point of being b/f and g/f when all they want is a non committed shack up living with you with you with one foot out the door.Dump him and find a guy who wants marriage, otherwise you may end up a welfare mom with no dad for the kids.These kind of guys just want a sex toy not a spouse.
2007-11-23 17:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not get married then you are not committed at all. What commitment is there? If one gets angry they leave so that paper is very important to help hold you both to each other. It is too easy to walk away when you are not married.
Then of course maybe this man does not mind that his children would be called bastards because there is no paper of your marriage.
If he loves you enough he will marry you because then you belong to each other! As long as he does not marry you then you both have a right to see other people and sleep with anyone you wish because you are not committed to each other at all.
2007-11-23 18:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by craft painter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a psychotherapist who specialized in couples therapy, I think we all abide many many myths regarding love and marriage. The fact is that if he's with you much of the time, if you share a roof and food, if you verbally commit to the future, then that IS a commitment and that is all that matters. Goals and expectations fueled by social expectations or pressure are the doom of many relationships.
Perhaps your needs and goals compared to his are simply incompatible right now. This article is a must:
Communication Tips That Can Save Your Relationship
http://www.hearts-and-kisses.com/relationshipadvice-basic-communication-tips.html
Why It Is Vital To Understand Your Motivation In Relationships
http://www.hearts-and-kisses.com/relationshipadvice-understanding-your-motivation.html
2007-11-23 22:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by lovehealer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole it is just a piece of paper thing is plainly stupid and will always will be. To say that means much.
What it means is I will not commit and think that I might do better... period. He is not the one as there are others who would beg to be w. you later.
2007-11-23 18:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage changes a relationship, this is a fact. I think it changes for the worst, especially for the guy.
2007-11-23 17:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by acedelux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no point if you ask me.
2007-11-23 18:04:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋