2007-11-23 09:28:40 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Funny you should ask cause this is what is happening in my life. I am divorced before and did not see or contact my first 3 children for 15 years. Yes it was a mistake that I should not have made but you cannot go back. So my 1 son with wife is 6yo and I just cannot bring myself to divorce and leave him like I did my other children. Even if I am not happy I am sacrificing for my son.I pretty much keep my mouth shut so there is little arguing, but it is hard.I guess I really have not answered this but I am living this for 12 more years. IF I can.
2007-11-23 09:35:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This really depends on a lot of things...
The children are part of your life too and they will be affected if one of you leave. It could affect them for a very long time. There are also money matters and whether just one of you could make enough alone to give the children the care they need. There are so many things to consider.
I feel when you bare children in this world that you have a responsibility to them and you should stay together as long as you can. But if you are in total misery and you are making your life, your spouses life, and the kids life bad then it may be best to go.
But who ever leaves always leave behind a lot of unhappiness and heartache. The spouse and the kids!
Depends on what a person holds most important, their self or their family!
2007-11-23 18:33:56 · answer #2 · answered by craft painter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is good to stay with someone for the children. They don't have a choice. Make the best of it. Never argue in front of the kids. You don't quit a job just because you don't like a co-worker. Think of the children first. Your kids should get a chance to get to know you and they can't do that if they just visit with you 2-4 times a month. That's just my opinion.
2007-11-23 17:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by paulysbea 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO I am a true showing of this I was in a marriage for 5 years together since I was 16 I am now 26. I have to kids with him and when my daughter was three months I left. He kept saying just stay for the kids just for the kids. I WAS DONE. NEver stay just for the kids it makes it so much worse and then the kids she it and sense it. My kids are 3 and 1. I have been gone from that for 9 months now on my own for the 1st time in my life. I am with someone however it is hard as hell. Not with the boyfriend just figuring out your own life. REGRETS HELL NO
2007-11-23 17:35:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your staying together causes more turmoil than if you were apart, you are not doing the children any favours.
The children will be hurt one way or the other, but it is far better to have them not understand why parents broke up and not being exposed to the harm that can come along with watching the two parents fighting (or whatever issue is happening).
2007-11-23 20:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either situation will affect the children mentally. If you stay together, the children will pick up on the hostility and will be affected by it. If you seperate, the children will be affected by the break-up and have to deal with the situation. If the children will be harmed physically staying together, then seperate. I think if the children will be in physical danger staying together, then seperate.
2007-11-23 17:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by acedelux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the situation. If you and your partner are still civil to each other, and there's no fighting, arguing, or deathly silences, then it can work. But if you two are at each other all the time, or there is so much tension in the air that no one in the household can breathe easy, then it is better to live apart.
Children do better from a broken home than they do living in one.
Just remember that its their best interests must come first. So if you have just grown apart, and there is no major conflict, it can work. If you two can't stand each other then you are better off apart.
2007-11-23 17:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't say if its right or wrong, I just don't think its a good reason. If there is anger or tension, it will show. The children can sense the tension between the parents and may begin to get depressed or angry, but the outcome is never good for anyone involved
2007-11-23 17:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by lwomar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lets see, if you stay and make everyone's(kids) life a living hell by not getting any problems solved then they are miserable if you leave and make everyone's(kids) life a living hell they are still miserable.
How about THIS, you and the old lady go to a counselor and they will tell you what you need to do, then DO it for the kids sakes.They didnt ask to be brought into this world, and YOU and your WIFE are RESPONSIBLE for seeing they are taken care of and to grow into mature well adjusted emotionally stable adults.Time for BOTH of you to start thinking of someone other than yourselves.
2007-11-23 17:59:03 · answer #9 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer.. you just want support in your decision. If two people will not work together to form a marriage then all will suffer including and especially the children.
2007-11-23 17:55:06 · answer #10 · answered by charlie e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋