sounds like daddy issues to me?

Question

I've been told that women are often attracted to men who remind them of their fathers. Please explain in what ways that is meant (personality or appearance)? Is it even true? To me it sounds gross and creepy. Do you think women only look for men like their dads because when they're children they are told that women prefer men like them?

Thanks for your thoughts.

Answer 1

Girls look for strength and reliability at any age, and don't like competition. Ergo, DADDYYYYYY!

Besides that, daddy is easier to manipulate than mommy.

Answer 2

It is an evolutionary drive for a woman to be attracted to an older man. This makes sense if you consider that only older, richer and more powerful men survived in primative times. These men could care for a woman's young and protect her (this is opposite of a man's drive, which is to be attracted to large breasts and younger women because they are driven to procreate).

As for finding a man just like dad---Freud would say that it is misplaced affection. I think there is a grain of truth in that-a lot of women seek from their mates the affection that they did not get from their fathers. I think that as a child you think of your parents as infallible and all-loving and as an adult when you find out that it's not true...that can be a rude awakening. That yearning for affection and love like you had with your parents as a kid (or that feeling of security) doesn't go away.

I also don't know many women who marry a man "just like dad". Mostly they seek out the things they like about their fathers. And since that is the example they were shown of men in childhood it stands to reason that a woman would compare potential mates against her father.
Anyway-I don't particularly find dating a man "like dad" is a social norm. I think that dad's just have the biggest impact on a girl's early life.

Answer 3

I don't think it's appearance wise. Maybe if a girl grew up with a really caring and loving father, she would want that in a future spouse, which who wouldn't.

My dad means a lot to me. He's always seemed so strong and can fix anything, and my husband isn't much of a handyman, he tries, but it's like I only trust my father's work on certain things, especially cars.

I think it's mainly a security issue. When the main male in your life has always been your father, a woman might want her husband to be somewhat like her father that way she still feels secured and protected.

Answer 4

I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that in a normal family situation, the dads take care of the family. We're attracted to men that can do the same when we're ready to build our own families. My parents have been married for 25 years, and I found a man with the same values and habits as my father. It doesn't mean anything gross...it just means I want to be as happy and successful as my parents have been all these years.

Answer 5

No, it is because of different reasons. Many children grow up missing a parent figure. For girls without a father during their childhood, they have always wanted a person who could fill that spot. When they become of the age of relationships, they choose older men because they thing that these men can finally take their father's spot.

Answer 6

Little girls develop a sense of what father/husband should be, by watching their own father. That includes the bad with the good.

If daddy slapped mommy around, then daughter thinks that is the way male-female relationships are supposed to be, and may very well date/marry someone who slaps them around. I have seen that too many times.

If daddy was a shadetree mechanic, then its likely that daughter would only fully respect someone who had similiar talents.

If daddy was very affectionate, daughter will seek out a mate who is affectionate.

I have ruined my daughter by being perfect in every way.
(TIC)

Answer 7

I was never lucky enough to find a man with the personality traits of my Father. I wish that I had.My Dad was very handsome& I married men who were quite handsome. (I've been married twice)

Answer 8

Please circulate see a therapist, this could be a sin. i might have ran away an prolonged time in the past, that isn't any longer too late to circulate now? in case you have a job, you are able to circulate out and get an house, and take your youthful brothers with you? of direction, devoid of your father understanding.

Answer 9

My man is kind of like my dad. He is very handy around the house and with cars and he works while I stay at home just like what my dad did with my mom. It's not that he looks like my dad or anything like that. He just reminds me a lot of my dad R.I.P