I'm in love with a beautiful woman as well as she is with me. We like everything the same as each other esp christmas our fav season. her husband hates it, claims its a suicidal season. He does not help her with anything, laundry, dishes, cleaning, cooking, bathing the kids, dressing them, he wont even go outside and play with his 4 yr old son... excuse " I work all week I want to relax on the W/E. He expects her to drop what she is doing whenever, wherever, and whoever is there, and give him sex whenever he feels like it which basically 24/7. If she refuses he gets in a mad about it.. ex. he has called her a whore b/c she refused, he has hit her, choked her for refusing. this is no lie I have had to throw him off her b/c of his anger problem his whole fam has ADHD and bi-polar disorder. He has a VERY VERY short temper.. He has litterly beaten his son for having too much fun as he says.. there is so much i could say just not enough room there is more you need to hear.. will you listen?
2007-11-23 08:47:25 · 14 answers · asked by Andrew 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she will have to make the decision to leave him, u would be a smart person if u cut all ties with her until she is a free woman. don't get your hopes up, because anything can happen and do u want to be the one with the broken heart when she decides to stay in the marriage regardless of the consequences. just remove yourself from this situation, she is his wife until she decides otherwise.
2007-11-23 09:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that she is attached to an a.............hole brutal pr..............k. and yes, my opinion is that until she decides to file for divorce, or leave him for good, I would not get involved in her problems, only because with all the things she says about him, his physical abuse, mental mistreatment, demanding attitude etc, she may still love him and will reconcile with him if he makes any changes for the better...and then where will you be? Hurt and heartbroken? Yes..to those questions I think. You are very involved with this woman..and you feel that she is being mistreated and abused..Yes I agree, but she is still married. What I would do is urge her to file for divorce, but with this she will need to move out, go to a woman's crisis center, get some help, get an order of protection, change her phone number, and where will she go? To your house?. Can you support her? I will bet any money that this guy will get violent and try to kill her if he gets the chance and he will come after you too. So cool it a bit with her and explain why. Tell her she has to make a move..to leave him, file for divorce and then maybe you two have a chance to be together and live a normal life, but not before.
2007-11-23 17:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to apply the 50% rule here. Which means your getting only half the truth.I'd think long and hard about getting in the middle of this. If she is serious about leaving, let her leave and then come to u. Your playing with someone who is unhappy and any seperation or divorce is going to be a mess.
If your her only motivation to leave, that should tell you that she needs to get some help.
2007-11-23 16:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by michael w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And you've witnessed all of this? Or is this just what she has told you? Only she can make that decision when it's time for her to leave. Until she does, stay out of it. The only time you should be involved is if that little boy is in some type of danger. Wait until this woman is divorced. Then, have a relationship.
2007-11-23 16:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by BooChan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Dude, this is NOT your problem; sounds like you are the wife, no insult. I know you don't want to hear this, but, she has to deal and resolve her marriage life on her own and you will have to stand by and wait for her. You may not like to read on, but at the end of the day the outcome might not be to your expectations. Her obligations are to her family first and she may have to stay married to her husband. My advice: be discreet, do not get caught! --How horrible things could turn for her!
2007-11-23 17:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by Beniiiii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the woman needs to make a move out of the house. If she doesn't then you might want to back off.
2007-11-23 16:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by bosco 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE SUCH A BIG CHILD!!!!!dont you see that you are the axis of all this problems,????ok let say you are not ,,put your self in his shoes,your wife sides with another ,NOBODY.........,would you just smile ,clap,sing and dance?watching another man come to your house and enjoy every bit of what your wife does? you need to grow up, stay away from people's families .........stay in your house,watch movies and so on... as this lady may be going through all this with her son because of you......GER OUT NOW,I SAID NNOWWW.
2007-11-23 17:44:21 · answer #7 · answered by lets pray 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's so miserable with him then why is she still with him and not with you?
Actions speak louder than words - both his AND hers. And if she doesn't care enough about her son to get him away from his abusive father, and she doesn't care enough about YOU to get away from her abusive husband, what makes you think that you have a chance with her?
2007-11-23 17:15:13 · answer #8 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a freak of a husband you better stay out of it till she leaves him,. There are too many freaks out there and he may resort to violence against her again and maybe even you!
Be careful and try to help her get out of the situation, or stay out of it.
2007-11-23 16:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by Cassandra C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is tell her she needs to move on from this man. But, if he is that angry it will be hard for her to get away. I am sure she is afraid of him and, it will be hard for her to make that first move. You can be headed for a long hard road. I am sure he will never let another man move in on his place...
2007-11-23 16:55:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋