My mom and dad are of the old school. Their culture (which I believe is behind 1000's of years behind but which I respect) dictates that if you bring home a girl/guy that it means you are serious with the person or bringing them home to be introduced to mom or dad as a precursor to marriage. So, hence we 4 kids in our late 30's are never allowed to bring anyone home unless for potential marriage.
Note: We kids respect our parents culture, however we are born here in America and go with the flow.
Example: My brother's girlfriend (who he will not marry) invited my family over to her home for Thanksgiving Dinner, but mom and dad refused to go because they are not serious, or considering marriage. My mother even told the girl kindly that it is her culture and explained it to her without offense.
So, what is your thoughts?
2007-11-23 08:37:54 · 7 answers · asked by DREENA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with your parents why should they meet everyone you date? If its of no significance whats the point?
2007-11-23 16:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by Monie N Da Middle/where she at? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in the United Kingdom, just believe me there are still parents here, who do not approve of their kids b/gfriend. I know of several famlies here in London where they got 3/4/5 kids all at home some over 40. Just because the parents didnt believe in relationships, it had to be marriage or nothing. Crazy.!!!
2007-11-23 08:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by Fay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like a mix! My husband asked for my parents blessing to marry me, and I was in my 40s! It was a way of showing respect and including them in the specialness of the announcement. I think dating is important no matter what age a single person is and to only introduce "the one" seems outdated. Not everyone is headed for marriage, and a long term committed relationship deserves respect, too.
2007-11-23 08:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by that judi 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you and your siblings are handling the delicate balancing act of the cultures crashing rather well.
Keep doing what you are doing and do not expect you parents to change.
Someday when you have children, you will understand where they are coming from. 1000 years of cultural norms do not take one generation to change.
Good luck.
2007-11-23 08:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess im kinda old school and im in my mid thirties, at my age i dont want to bring people to meet my parents if he is not my potential husband, the reason is becuz i dont want family growing attached to someone that may not be around for long, i could probably feel ya if i was in my twenties but i am getting older and i need to think more responsible.
2007-11-23 09:01:00 · answer #5 · answered by Kiki from K-town 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad I'm an Amercian and that my parents don't have hang ups like that.
2007-11-23 08:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD PREFER IT THAT WAY MYSELF, BUT SEEMS LIKE YOUR BROTHER JUST WANTS HIS FUN IN BED AND THEY SEE THAT, BUT SO FEW AMERICAN WOMEN HAVE RESPECT FOR THEMSELVES THESE DAYS,SO CAN YOU BLAME YOUR PARENTS?
2007-11-23 09:03:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋