I hate high school drama;really,I do,but no matter what I always seem to BE the subject.I'm basically a doormat for my friends;I love them&I know they mean well&I'm usually the resident psycologist.but sometimes they don't realise that they take advantage of me,wether it be as a project-doer,a coat hanger/shelf,sending me off to do things for them,because they've always known me as "the helper".I also have this friend of mine who likes me,CONSTANTLY on my tail;i think he's bipolar,telling me all the time that I hate him&then that he "loves" me&is always blaming me for all his problems&dumping his emotion baggage onto me,telling me how he mutilates himself&following me after school!I've never done intentionally done anything to him but help&he makes me feel horrible!My family;of course I love them,but there's this constant need to be perfect,especially from my grandma;Im the oldest kid in the house so I'm beckoned to do everything,running around like some chicken with no head.
2007-11-23 07:49:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im also pressured to do well in school;I WANT to do well&I've somehow managed to remain on the honour roll.But it's getting more&more difficult.I feel like I have to deal with everyone's troubles,which turn into mine&in addition to problems I already have!I'm recovering from a 1yr10month relationship that my bf;but 1st&foremost,BEST FRIEND decided to end a few weeks ago;we're oddly enough,acting exactly the same as before,but I have enough problems figuring out what he wants,with him&his stupid confusing intense stares&suprise kisses out of no where&then his acting like-a-complete-stranger-then-getting-back-to-bbfs stage;I'm hurting then I'm happy&the cycle just seems to start all over again!I love my family,my friends,I care about that guy's health&I definitely still have feelings for my best friend-but they all seem so difficult to deal with.I hate being like this;I don't wanna end up psycho! I'd just love some tips on how i could calm down before i explode on them.THANK YOU SO MUCH!
2007-11-23 07:49:30 · update #1
I use prayer. It works well for me and I am a cop in an inner city. Talk about stress!
Good luck.
2007-11-23 07:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh! This sounds familiar!
Sounds as though you are trying to be all things to everyone!
Have you ever heard the term: BE TRUE TO YOURSELF ? You WILL drive yourself CRAZY if you insist on trying to please and live up to every ones expectations!
Being TRUE TO YOURSELF doesn't imply it's cool to be rude or selfish. It means that you chose your goal and friends based on your desires, likes and dislikes. The way your boyfriend is behaving is immature and manipulative. Tell him how it makes you feel and if he doesn't knock it off, you'll find someone else to hang out with. CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS CAREFULLY!
Of course you love your family as they do you and it sounds like they are very proud of you as they should be! However, you need to listen to your self and decide how much pressure you want to put on yourself to be satisfied with yourself. Think about this: People will come and go around you, but YOU will live with YOU as long as YOU exist! Take time for yourself and YOUR interests, things that you enjoy and make you happy. Go for long walks ALONE, take a meditation class, take an art class.....
Be honest and kind to others and yourself and enjoy both. Set boundaries, draw the line and don't be afraid to just say "no thank you" to those who are pushing you around emotionally.
I'm not an expert or perfect, just learned a few things for myself in six decades of life that work for me.
2007-11-23 08:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by mr.richie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have read some litterature about panic attacks. But they allways seem to have a more scientific approach and that is nothing I need in my struggle to survive those horrible panic attacks. This is a "hand on" and very practical book. I felt it was written to me. I am sure that you are going to feel the same. Joe Barry writes exactly how I think. The examples are perfectly described. And the method is genius. I recommend this book and thanks Joe Barry for writing it. It changes your life
2016-05-25 03:12:52 · answer #3 · answered by diana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are by nature a care giver you will not be able to change that but what you can do is take care of your shelf first you have to understand that if something happens to you who will help the rest of them take care of your shelf first when you feel better then help the rest you have a gift just include your shelf in that care giving and keep up the good work
2007-11-23 08:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by furface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit kissing every ones butt! Are you training yourself to be a slave. You do this stuff to gain approval, and I don't approve!
It's OK to help people but, give yourself a break.
This friend that cuts himself and dumps on you, needs to be told to back off.
Your peer group seems to be quite dysfunctional. Find some new friends..........
Don't worry be happy, "on your own terms".......
2007-11-23 08:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by ifixit54 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking a look at ( http://www.reducingstress.net ) They have a lot of great articles and tips on how to deal with and reduce stress.
2007-11-24 03:03:01 · answer #6 · answered by marketingexpert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masturbation ...LOL...sorry. You have to find your own path to relaxation, although Sex is the biggest stress relief that I have found.
2007-11-23 07:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋