What to do, what to do???

Question

I've been married 3 1/2 yrs & we've been together 17. my problem is that he seems to get really mad and nasty when he feels mys sisters are lying to him. I don't know why, they are grown women and have their own lives. anyway the day before turkey day he got really mad at me cause i sent out a video to a male friend of ours it was funny something on youtube, it was NOt sexual, or flirtatious or fresh in anyway. anyway he said it made him uncomfortable that i sent it the friend. i said sorry i just thought it was funny. so then i told him that it made me unconfortable the way he acts about my sister & her so called lying but then he blew up at me. we havent spoken since the day before turkey day. i'm really hurt that he doesnt see what this is doing to us. we've been arguing about this for over a month now & it's getting really old. the way he acts really does make feel uncomfortable, he almost acts like he's a jealous boyfriend and that hurts my feelings. I dont know what to do.

On wed. nite the nite of the arguement he was going on & on about my sister and he lies. we were on way home which is a 45 minute drive from where we live, i turned the car around and told him that we were going to settle this once and for all. once we got back to my sisters he started denying everything and twisting my words and making out to be a liar, this really broke my heart and now i'm devestated cause i have no idea what's going on since we havent spoken. He didnt have thanksgiving dinner with me and my family he just stayed home sulking, that made me feel even worse about this situation. My family sent him some food, i made him a plate for lunch since he had to work today, but he never took it. i feel like giving it to the dog and let him enjoy it instead.

Answer 1

you have it out with him. and give him a piece of your mind. ask him what he playing at. he sounds jealous to me. and i would not put up with it. jealousy is a very negative emotion. and very destructive as well. and dont tolerate it at all. and dont let him brow beat you as well. stand your ground and be strong.

Answer 2

This sounds like it could be headed in a bad direction. Your husband sounds insecure - maybe justified, maybe not. Whatever his reason he is not controlling his temper well. You may be headed for an abusive relationship.
When things calm down see if he is willing to talk. Ask him what it is that really makes him upset. He has to site specific instances otherwise he is just being emotionally imature.
If you can maybe suggest counseling, though I doubt he will opt for that. If so I think you had better start planning your future without him. If he isn't going to work on this problem it will not get better and you stand to be hurt a lot emotionally and physically. If you have children do not stay and let this upset them emotionally either. They need a good father & family example to grow up with.

Answer 3

Hey there, i must say after reading your story i must say that it seems to me that you are in a habit relationship and need to do some more activities together and if he continues to act the same way then maybe you have outgrown each other and as much as it hurts it might be time to start to afresh. Although the second option is a very last resort i am sure it wont get to this as i am sure when you start to spend some quality time alone going out then you will start to see that he wont spend time worrying about your sister. good luck.

Answer 4

Make him a deal. He can send out a video to someone (innocent video) and he will not get mad about your sisters.

Answer 5

He is having something unusual with himself. Please be with him and persuade him to tell you what is that and then both of you together can easily solve it.