Im a guy and My friend and I were meant to go to the movies tonight but my friend sent me a msg saying that he cant go because he's going out drinking instead. This has happened a few times over the last while and each time I dont really get bothered about it. But now im thinking that maybe he's being a bit rude and not being a very good friend at all. Is my friend out of line? Is he really a friend? Or am I being sensitive? I know guys are meant to be bullett proof about stuff like this but at the same time I dont wanna be made a fool out of. Thanks
2007-11-23 07:30:21 · 13 answers · asked by macmurphy45 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you r in a hard situation. it hurts when someone is doing wrong and u don't know how to deal with it. Your friend is not being a true friend cause he would definatly choose u over drinking. Drinking can hurt u and him. Drinking can cause ur insides danger and also the way u act can hurt others. U can be a good friend by telling his parents and ur parents, this is not a tatter teller at all even if others say that u are. You are being a good friend by caring. Remember a true man shows his emotions
2007-11-23 07:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes friends grow apart and the best indication is in pass-times. It seems you once shared similar interests and therefor hang out together but something has now shifted. Your friend is not necessarily being rude though it would be best to come out and say what he means...most of us chicken out for fear of being misunderstood. If you really want to continue the friendship perhaps you should suggest joining in (do not compromise your integrity though - nothing is worth that!) and see what happens. If he declines then it is time to walk separate paths. This does not mean an end to friendship. Just think of it as mutually agreeing to disagree with no hard feelings. There are always people around us who share similar interests at any given time if we remain open and accepting of differences.
2007-11-23 15:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by kahahius 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound a little too clingy, buddy. Why the movies? It sounds like a date. Anyway, your friend isn't one of those people you're going to hold super close. Everybody has a way they need to be "handled". Enjoy his company, but realize he's kind of a flake. Make other friends so you can afford to have plans fall through. In the mean time, why not go drinkin' with him?
2007-11-23 15:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by Kyle D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably considers you a Friend, he just forgot what friendship is about and is most likely taking your presence for granted. You need to talk to him about it and get through to him. You are not being to sensitive, it is not right to cancel plans that you made with somebody who cleared their schedule to do something with them to blow them off at last minute to go drinking or something petty like that.
2007-11-23 15:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he keeps ditching you, I would say he's not much of a friend. I had a friend that did that stuff too and I just quit taking her phone calls. Find other friends that want to hang out with you.
2007-11-23 15:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by Liz A 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not being too sensitive....... you don't need a friend like this........ He doesn't have enough sense to realize what a good friend he has in you...... I guess too much drinking has dulled his brain..... Don't burn bridges...... but find new friends that deserve a good person like you.
2007-11-23 15:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by micky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being rude. Basically, he just insulted you. Your hurt feelings are reasonable. He might be a friend, but he's an oafish one.
2007-11-23 15:33:19 · answer #7 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to tell you he does not want to be your friend anymore. Just ignore him, don't make plans with him, and when he calls you, tell him you are busy.
Watch how he will feel. Maybe is is a parasite friend, he only comes to you when he can't find anyone else.
2007-11-23 15:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He is definitely being rude. Just don't make plans with him anymore. Let him be to one to come to you.
2007-11-23 15:35:55 · answer #9 · answered by mlvue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know what? give him another chance, if he blows it up again just don't bother talking to him anymore... you know? I mean that's what I would do.
2007-11-23 15:34:48 · answer #10 · answered by The Beast from the Middle East 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋