my husbands a sissy?

Question

i have married for 10 years i have tolerated my husbands cross dressing allowing him to dress in my presence one night every fortnight but for the last year he has been dressing every opportunity,i have come home on several occasions to find him dressed and obviously aroused,last weekend i came home 2 hours early caught him fully dressed he was oblivious that i was standing in our bedroom doorway as he was wearing headphones to my disgust lying on our bed legs in the air he had a large vibrating penis inside himself,is this behavior normal amongst cross dressers?,is he gay?..should make him pack his frocks and show him the door? ....Janice

Thank you all for quick response,with all these reply s i had an idea as my husband Richard was as usual on Friday night dressed as "Rachel" i decided to confront him and to make a decision on our marriage,i have already confided in my older sister and her husband who is unshockable and actually had a cross dressing bf years back arrived for my support both staying in the kitchen only intervening on my request.I gave him a few home truths i managed to have him crying at my feet by not believing his pleading he was not gay(im sure he hasn't had gay sex)i made him read your reply s and how no one would tolerate his disgusting behavior his pathetic begging more so him dressed in suspenders pink dress,high heels,large breast whatever begging to conform to any rules i set even saying he would get castrated rather than put out,he begged that i punish him to relieve my pent up stress and anger,i did i belted him repeatedly until i was spent,i think its gona get better,ill let all know.

Answer 1

I doubt if you husband is gay, and yes I do believe he loves you. He has a problem with his crossdressing and you are a focal point for his sanity. Yes, he does need you.

His brain is hard wired such that when he crossdresses his brain releases a series of neurotransmitters which give him a sensation of well-being, pleasures, sexual gratification and self-identity. It like an addiction, beyond his control.

The only way I know a marriage like this to work is when (1) the wife enjoys and encourages her husband to crossdress, or (2) where the wife sets the rules and the husband does his best to follow the rules. The wife needs to set the rules because the husband is responding as if he were responding to an addiction.

The rules should be very, very clear... even in writting and mutually agreed upon. The wife should also get something out it ... e.g. set a rule that says when he crossdresses he needs to be doing some domestic work in the house... cleaning, ironing, cooking, etc... you wish - he performs.

If he cannot following your rules and he continues to be out of control, then you will be better off divorced.

Answer 2

My Sissy Husband

Answer 3

Reading your response after your question was more of an eye opener than a guy crossdressing, I think your behaviour in this situation was shocking, I too have a cd husband ok ok not on the same level as most cds go to he just wears girly things which I accept as he wears stuff in public no dresses or handbags etc just little bits and bobs to him clothes have no gender so I knew this before we got together even if he hadn't and I didn't know about it ok would of been a shock more so for not being honest with me as it doesn't worry me as im a girly girl so its great to have a husband that u can take shopping..... i would never go about the way you have, bringing him to his knees and belting him...who do you think you are lady!! I hope he has the good sense to come around and leave you because your truly a horrible person, he is probably dressing because the it makes him closer to a woman and the woman in his life is nothing but me me me giving him no support or love

Answer 4

Janice you have been with him for ten years, so you must know by now that this obviously punches his buttons.

I can understand that you might be cross at him using your clothes, so why not let him have his own women's clothes and ban him from using yours? That way you won't feel that your stuff has been violated.

All of us amateurs here cannot possibly advise you on what to do with a problem within your marriage that you consider to be so serious. Get some professional help, and your doctor is a good place from which to get a referral. See your doctor alone if your husband won't co-operate.

Answer 5

My husbands a sissy?

Answer 6

hi Janice,don`t take any advice from these guys they haven't a clue,I am a so called "sissy" in a happy hetro relationship i dress regularly with my partners encouragement.My gf was also shocked,thought i was gay,when she discovered i had put things inside me but i have no craving for sex with men...most cross dressers straight or gay have used a penis dildo..believe me hes just a sissy not gay.think of the things that arouse him,housework,ironing,sewing(that make you gay) being punished,humiliated..not the turn ons of a real man...if you can tolerate his pathetic dressing habit use him like my gf does,performing all house keeping duties and all we get in return if we`r lucky is a good thrashing..R

Answer 7

I assume that there are no minor children to consider.

What is it that you want? What is it that he wants? Is there any common ground between the two? If not, there maybe it's time to part.

Doesn't look like you have tried counselling - it may be worth doing so. After all you have invested ten years in the relationship - is it salvageable?

Answer 8

Wow, I think my brain is bleeding. I'd ask if your sex life gave you any indication of his "preference", but I have a feeling that just might do me in. I guess the question to ask yourself is, just how much tolerance do you have? I have no idea what I would be like as a woman, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have been cool with the cross dressing, so I don't think I'd have found myself as deep as you in the first place. I'd print him off a list of gay bars in the area, pack his bags, and tell him to go find what he needs. I can't imagine having him around is healthy for you. Good luck, I guess. Wash your dildo...

Answer 9

He is gay and a cross dresser. He wants to be a woman in a homosexual relationship. If I were you I would chock this marriage up as a loss and tell him to pack his frocks and show him the door. If you don't throw him out he will continue to disgust you and it will deteriorate and you will end up hating him. This relationship is not healthy. The mistake you made was to tolerate his cross dressing in the beginning of your marriage, but we all make mistakes. Dump him, file for divorce and never look back and try to start a new life...this guy is a real loser that needs psychiatric help badly.

Answer 10

WEll Janice you can go one of two ways strap on and assume the role he's been Playing with you and stick it to him ... OR show him the door and stick it to him. Id go with the first, first and then the latter just for ..its and giggles. g/l