K i've been married for 4months to my wife but lately she's so wrapped up in her career that we hardly spend time together. or when she's home she's too tired to do anything. Is her work related issues more of a priority than her family. I have 2 kids? What should I do?
2007-11-23 07:21:03 · 8 answers · asked by Dcloser 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends on your income and living style. With my job I work anywhere from 50 to 100 hours a week (I'm not kidding) and I am always worn out when I get home, I would love to be home with my wife and daughter but, we are used to to having all the money and I really don't think we would make it without me working so much. I am at the beginning of a major career and my wife is great about just understanding that all the pain now will pay off in the end. I have been married for a year and my wife doesn't work, I would much rather she be with the baby.
2007-11-23 08:28:19 · answer #1 · answered by lowcivic88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the married life, four months, that is wonderful!! You are still at the early stages of marriage.
My husband and I will be celebrating out 16 years of being married in February.
So, you are her first marriage and she is your second?? Ok, well, she is new at this marriage thing and you both have to sit down and communicate how you feel about her working, not argue, no tantrums, no fits nothing like that, just sit down with her and communicate your feelings about her working so much.
Marriage takes a lot of work, and I can tell you from experience it is nothing like I had envinsioned it when I was little, nothing at all, it takes work, time, patience, communication, love and trust and working out these little, petty issues.
You have to talk to her, before you just keep it inside and it all festers up in you and then one day you are just going to get into one big blow out argument even with the children there.
Do not let your marriage suffer over this little issue, do not let your children suffer over this issue, talk to your wife this weekend.
2007-11-23 07:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was like that before you married her did the 2 of you talk about her cutting back on work? If not you should have. Tell her how you feel, that you want to spend more time with her since she is your wife. Maybe she doesnt realize how this is affecting you.
2007-11-23 07:29:21 · answer #3 · answered by llexiann30 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to find a way to get her to understand she has her priorities all messed up. You, then your children, then her career.... that's the way it should be... seems she is more focused on her career and ignoring your needs and her children's needs. She is being selfish and needs a wake up call before she wakes up one morning with nothing but her career.
Best of luck in finding a way to do this without her getting all bent out of shape. But seriously, sounds like you need to sit her down and have a serious talk with her about all of this and how it's making you feel.
2007-11-23 07:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an interesting question.... I work with a woman who married a guy with two kids several months ago. I hope it's not your wife as we're getting close....
She complains that she is nothing more than a baby sitter and her hubby pays more attention to his kids than he does to her.
He recently refused to come and see her at work when he had the day off - that really made her mad.
You should start spending more time with her and letting her know how much you appreciate her and you better start right now.
2007-11-23 07:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by ezxqz 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u come first as the husbnd, she should re-prioritise her comittments, having 2 kids u must have bn 2gether 4 a while then ,such that living 2gether is not new to her!careers ruin relationships!
2007-11-23 07:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by bravo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about this. You should of saw some of this before marriage.
2007-11-23 07:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its only been 4 months and your already worried about little things. let her know that somethings wrong but also that you support her.
2007-11-23 07:25:40 · answer #8 · answered by spencert35 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋