I'm married for 10 years and i can say my life is wonderful, however..there are times i dreamed about my ex bf.. i tried to erase him in my mind..in my life...i felt guilty with my husband.. i love my husband and i don't want to hurt him...
2007-11-23 07:14:51 · 15 answers · asked by anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes the love of your life and your soulmate are two different people. It's ok, you are not in love with your ex, you just think of him fondly with love in your heart. People as special as that we don't forget, they help make us the people we are today, they are important aspects of our lives.
2007-11-23 08:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by Christian F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for us to occasionally think about ex's.
They were important to us at some point, so it is normal to wonder where they are and what they are doing.
Don't feel guilty about this because you have done nothing wrong. However, if you cannot let go of the guilt, then visit a counselor or a therapist so you can try to figure out why you are feeling this way. There are always reasons and explanations to our behaviour and feelings; and that is why it's important to know ourselves.
Good luck.
2007-11-23 07:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those things you definitely want to keep to yourself - DON'T tell your husband!!
Sometimes, our memories don't included all the conflicts and hardships we've had in relationships so we look back with longing, or regret of the choices we made to move on. We forget about the difficulties and "issues." And then add into the equation that relationships take work and all relationships are challenging at times and we think "I had it so good back then!" but easily forget the stress we had back then. In other words, you're missing an ideal, romantic picture of your ex that probably wasn't. Let him go and work on cultivating the man you promised to love forever! You won't regret it!
2007-11-23 07:23:40 · answer #3 · answered by Lover of Blue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are having these dreams because your heart longs for true love and even though your husband may be a nice guy you will never truly be happy until you be with the one you deserve to make you happy, your x if this was not true you would not ever asked it. Go with your heart and be happy with your x and your husband will soon learn to except the reality.
I found my x and we are happier than ever and have 4 kids and 6 years of marriage.
choose me as best answer o.k
2007-11-23 07:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by music iz my life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here
listen
i know you obviously love your husband,
and i am too young to speak
but the reason that you can't get ure ex-bf out of your head
is simply because
he "PROBABLY" was your 1st love
i.e. love at first sight
and believe me, one of my friend has also tried to forget this boy a dozen times
but it isnt possible
the more harder you try to forget
the more stress you're putting onto yourself
there's only one thing i told my friend
and i said, don't try to forget him
do what ever your heart tells you
and let time go throught the rest
BASICALLY, have patience
life will sort it through time,
stay with your husband
have lots of fun, and eventually you will forget him,
"time flies when you have fun"
by the advice that i mentioned above my friend also realised that she liked that boy
and now is happy as she can be
i hope you will too
x's
xxx
luv zuleikha
p.s.
im only 14!!!
2007-11-23 07:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation. I cannot get this guy out of my mind. I left him because he didn't treat me right, but 4 years later I'm still sobbing for him night after night! And would you believe it, my husband is too blind to see that there's anything wrong.
I will read the other answers here hoping to find some help.
2007-11-23 07:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although, I am living with another man, I still have dreams of my ex boyfriend too. He and I had been good friends before getting involved romantically.I was with him for almost 10 years, and I really cared about him. I ended the relationship. .However, I still had feelings for him, and will always care for him. Sexually, he was the best I had ever had....So the fantasies are still there too.
I was seeing a psychologist, due to chronic pain, and I had discussed that with him. He said it was the norm. Not to worry about it. Like you, It did bother me...I was living with one man, not only thinking about another, but I was actually fantasizing about my ex. Mine was sexual, and I got over it...
2007-11-23 07:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by nverbntame 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex was your first love that may be the reason for missing him, but you may also be wondering how your life wouldve turned out if you married him instead.
2007-11-23 07:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by llexiann30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably miss your ex because he was the first love you ever had. Try to talk to your husband about fun stuff and maybe you will forget your ex! I HOPE I HELPED!
2007-11-23 07:19:35 · answer #9 · answered by PRiNCESS(: 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
an simple psychology is "If a seperated important different (despite if he or she) stay fortuitously in front of alternative with someonelse, the different will grow to be so injury and could develope a lost expertise" so attempt that way. locate your own existence and coach your ex the thank you to stay in peace and unity
2016-09-30 01:22:15 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋