to ask their ex about his/her expenses? Or maybe it is just my ex being nosy. We get along pretty well now considering he left me for another women. But we have a son and that is what you have to do. But, whenever we talk he seems to focus on money. I am taking a vacation - how much was the airfare? I bought a new car - how much did it cost? I did some renovations in my house - how much did you spend? Today I finally told him - none of your business (in a joking manner). But, he also tells me about his expenses, how he is changing jobs, how much his girlfriend spent on her car, etc. Anyone else's ex crazy like this or is it just mine? Any reasons on why he needs to know this stuff or why he thinks I need to know about his life?
2007-11-23 07:00:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds to me like it may not be about money at all but regret that the two of you are not still married. those are all things that would be a matter of concern if you were still married. the amount of child support is set by the court and the only reason he should be concerned about that would be if the child or children were neglected. I would not be surprised if the day came that he wanted perhaps to try the marriage with you again unless he either had too much pride or knew that you wouldn't want that anyhow. Good Luck to you!!
2007-11-23 07:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was told that you can use the child support for anything you want to use it for, as long it is for the child, I know of a few women who use it to pay for their rent, I mean, you have to put a roof over that child's head right?, and some use it to make a car payment, you have to have transportation to get your child, or children to and from Dr. apts, school, etc. Alot of men don't want that money going for any thing more then food and clothes, but it is really none of their business what that money is spent on, its not like we have to keep a ledger of what is spent on what and where, sounds to me your ex is just being really nosy.
2007-11-23 15:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by tiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there isn't any reason why he should even care what you spend. Is he trying to find out if he should go back to court because his expenses are so much more than yours and try to get the child support changed? That would be the only reason he could possibly be telling you about how much he has to spend here and there. Child support is just that though and won't be changed.
2007-11-23 15:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really is none of his business so when he asks, just don't answer.
My ex can be the same way.... he has visitation for about 2 months out of the year, I have them the rest of the time, I agreed to have his child support lowered to help him out... yet he is still bent out of shape about how much I make, not realizing that what he pays wouldn't even cover the food they eat, much less clothing, utilities, rent, transportation, etc... etc... etc.
2007-11-23 15:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no, you are not alone. My ex said he wanted receipts for items I buy to prove that child support was going for our son. The truth is you don't have to show or tell him a thing! Ask any judge. The judge told my ex that she (me) does not have to provide you with anything, you have to pay support and how she spends it is her decision whether it's for bills, clothes, etc.... I don't buy a thing for myself with his money and he still wants proof!
2007-11-23 15:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Its none of his business and he is having trouble cutting the rope here. He shouldnt be discussing his girlfriends expenses with you either.
It not your business and after all, it does not benefit your child in any way which is the most important thing here.
2007-11-23 15:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that any questions he has regarding YOUR life and YOUR expeses/income need to go through his lawyer. I knew my ex was going to have those sorts of questions so I had a statement that if he had ANY questions regarding my life, expenses, lifestyle etc he was to go through the lawyers to ask those questions...funny how UNnosey they get when they figure just ASKING the question might cost them $250.00!
2007-11-23 16:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child support is based on both incomes and percentage of parenting time plus child care, insurance, etc. It is based on guidelines by the state and has nothing to do with how you spend your money.
2007-11-23 15:05:24 · answer #8 · answered by oh_my_its_linda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are like that, they always ask the price or volunteer how much they paid for something. If he didn't use to do that maybe he took the habit from his new wife. I don't think he does it to nose in your business...it's just a bad habit. You don't have to answer him.
2007-11-23 15:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a judge once said in court to a brother of mine I do not care what your wife uses the money for all i care is that you pay to support your child and I agree with that
2007-11-23 16:09:14 · answer #10 · answered by billc4u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋