Since everybody is on a sexy roll today...Women: How do you feel when?

Question

you meet a man who doesn't care to have sex with you?

We grew up thinking we always have the sexual power since most men want to get into our pants....so I'm curious how you feel and react when someone deviates from that norm.

Kat: I like your answer because it's the rational way, however, we don't always react logically to people and events.

Everybody was bringing sexy back this morning...so I found myself gettin' caught up with the program too.

Answer 1

I feel rejected and unattractive! However, I try to not let on to this, for fear of coming across desperate. But it really does seem to effect my self-esteem. I know it shouldn't, but that is just my honest answer.

Answer 2

If someone is not interested in me sexually, I take it as is and move along, if someone is and I am also attracted to him, then we can proceed and see what happens in time.
I am not affected by it because I am well aware of not being every man's type, just as there are some men who many women consider attractive and to me they are not, I don't expect that everyone I come across will be sexually inspired by me, that's a realistic approach, in my opinion, and not a waste of time wondering how someone could not possibly find me sexually appealing...oh, the horror!
Hehe...
I think it's a bit pretentious to assume that every man one comes across will want to have sex with one, even if most are sexual.
There is a thin line between confidence and conceit.

What's this sexy roll you speak of, darling?

Answer 3

Don't you think it depends on the woman's physical attractiveness? Like the very beautiful women I'm sure assume to have this sexual power the most since they are so physically attractive. But for this to be applied to women in general, I don't think should apply. Like for an ugly woman there will be many ugly men willing to have sex with her, whereas, an ugly man really has work cut out for him or even other average guys. An average woman will have a pile of ugly guys, average anf fairly good looking guys willing to have sex with her. But a very handsome, hearthrob, hunk guy that is charming and is a head turner and is used to having sex with very beautiful woman and is top of the ladder probably would not be that interested in an average looking woman. So she would have to use more than her looks and more of her personailty to equalize the advantage the beautiful women have and have him want to be with her instead of the hot women, which is his focus. So therefore, I think you could say this depends on the "pyramid" for physical attractivness.

It's kind of funny how guys have to deal with rejection and dust them self off and that's fine. But god forbid women actually get rejected and their ego's take a hit and their self esteem, lol. Yet, guys have to deal with this and people don't think that's a blow to a man's ego? I guess it's kind of hard to feel bad for woman being turned down or rejected regarding this,lol. It's funny how some assume a guy is gay, yet maybe he just didn't find her attractive or wasn't attractive to him or his type. So women feel they are attractive to most guys? wow and they say guys have big egos. And many times I heard the reason women don't go up to men and ask them out, because they don't want to deal with the hurt of rejection and leave it up to men or what this woman that answers questions from men's health said. If women don't have to worry about getting rejected then why don't they save the guys the failure and ask the guy out they are attracted to.

Answer 4

c d, what a refreshingly honest answer. We need more of that here. Xiomanager, I like the sentiment that men are standing up to the kind of crap you've experienced. If you're in your 20s, realize it'll get better on it's own. If you're in your 30s, you've got some things to look deeply at.

Answer 5

You know what's weird? As I've gotten older, MORE men want to have sex with me than when I was younger! I look basically the same, with some laugh lines now, but it was hard to get a date way back in my 20's. If I was single right now, I could have a date tonight if I wanted.

But to answer your question, it's a bit of a let down when you meet a guy whom you're attracted to who isn't interested. Sometimes the reasons, I've found out later, is that they don't want to date the prettiest woman in the room because all the guys will be after her, and he'd have to beat the guys off with a stick.

Answer 6

My experiences with rejecting girls have not been pleasant and have left me feeling VERY disappointed in the entire gender.

The first came with my first gf of 3 years. Imagine this situation. Friday night, she has to leave to go home in an hour, we are fooling around, both very aroused, and she tells me "Tomorrow morning I will stop by here and you can do to me ANYTHING you want". Gee whiz, she never said anything like that to me before (and yes, there were couple of things she never did). But guess what? I had important and urgent work to do even if it was Saturday morning. I tell her I am very flattered but I am busy all day, so perhaps a raincheck. This was THE FIRST TIME I ever said no to sex. She of course rejected me countless times because of work and study, occasionally very rudely. I really wanted to see how she would react. I did not expect what came next. She goes quiet with a look on her face as if I just killed her parents... I can tell something's wrong so I ask her, and out comes a TORRENT OF ABUSE! "You idiot, you fool, how dare you, how could you reject this wonderful body, look at me, something is wrong with you... you must be gay!"

We broke up shortly afterwards.

I had similar situations happen since. Beautiful girl, but something is off putting about her personality. My intuition usually turns out to be right. At first the girl thinks I am playing hard to get so she tries even harder (I wish I could fake neediness to chase her away, but it's not something you can do easily unless you are REALLY in that headspace), but then when she realizes I am for real, she usually becomes nasty, either in am angry tirade like the one above or just starts foaming at the mouth, sulking and saying mean things. In these situations I "learn" so much about myself, like the fact that I have a small penis, that of course I am gay, that I am pathetic, that I am terrible in bed...

Good times.

Girls, guys with any degree of self-worth and success ARE selective! Don't act like spoiled brats when you don't get what you want. Men as a whole are slowly rising up in confidence when it comes to dealing with women and setting standards. This will only become more frequent in the future.

Answer 7

Depending on the man's age..I date older men, and it may not be a question of him wanting to go to bed with me..He may not be able to perform. He may be on blood pressure medication that affect his ability to maintain an erection. Most men, in this day and time, will have a supply of viagra. However, there are some, who don't. I keep my cool, I know I am attractive, and sensual...so it's not about me.

Answer 8

Nothing much, really. Most of the guys I know appear to have no interest in it with me. I enjoy their company nonetheless.

Answer 9

I would love to be in a relationship with a guy who doesn't want sex. Sex isn't important to me in a relationship.. Sadly, I think I'm the only one that thinks that way.

If I'm not planning on being in a relationship with him and he's only a friend/acquaintance, then I'm even more relieved. I'm not the friends w/ benefits type of person.

Answer 10

I think it can make you question your worth and if you are insecure about your looks or desirability, that just confirms it for you. It is probably best when both partners are interested in the same kind of relationship. Don't waste your time if you can't agree on what that is.
C. :)!!