hi am Jasper. doing my UG . my family is a very good and decent family living in a village.we are a midle level family living in tradition way.my problem is about my MOM.she is around 50 yrs old and working as a teacher in a govt school. she is average tall and not fat and having no medical problems.I get depressed and feel bad and irritated to see her wearing saree exposing her navel.In house she will not hide her navel and oftenly while going to school and marriage functions she exposes it badly.Mostly i feel to die when peoples eye points her navel this happens when i go with her out. (I think she notices it)another thing is my friends visit my house often because my college is near my house. at that tiime i see some friends staring at her and passing comments(i have heard it).I dont know why she is doing like this. she watches film and sure she knows whats going on film(Navel shows of heroines)..but even she doesnt take any steps tp hide. Can any one help me how can i let to know
2007-11-23 05:50:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Why are you so bogged down by primitive tradition? I think your mother is mature lady who is also a teacher.She knows what is right for her dress code.
Please don't try to teach her what is good for her so far as her dresses are concerned.Don't invite troubles for nothing. Dress in any form ....in a semi rural Indian society the eyes of people travels around every part of a female. Do you think no one stares at you ...at your tender parts ?
2007-11-24 06:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by bikashroy9 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told her how you feel about it?
You can not assume that she is thinking the same way you are and can not get upset with her if you do not tell her how you feel. She might not have any idea this bothers you so much. Just because she has seen a particular movie (Sorry I am not familiar with it so I can not speak about the movie) she might not have gained the same insight you did. Do not assume.
But you must be prepared for her to disagree with you. If you talk to her at least you will be on the same page. Maybe you could come to a compromise and make sure to dress appropriately for visitors.
If I understand correctly, this is of cultural importance to you. You need to express your feelings to her, in a calm and respectful way. She will be much more receptive to this if you do not attack her with words.
Give it a try. You never know where it might take you.
2007-11-23 05:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
mid life crisis? Wants to feel young again and show that shes not old? I know A LOT of women that age and older that do a similar thing due to the simple fact that AGING STINKS!
Maybe she likes to feel attractive! Let her enjoy being sexy and let her know how you feel. Talk to her.
2007-11-23 06:17:51 · answer #3 · answered by darlin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell her how uncomfortable you feel! if she was the loving mother you said u have, she'll understand.
i think your friends should stop talking about her. thats rude
2007-11-23 06:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are uncomfortable with it,tell her!
2007-11-23 05:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by Chef Smalls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋