we had something going only after I withdrew,
and by that I mean we had a great friendship with
a hint of romance,
I believe in staying pure until marriage so we never did nothing like that,
one of the many reasons I caught his eye,
he's a nice guy but assertive and believes in that also,
I want to send him a letter saying:
"I don't want that life-if I can't have you-I Miss You-And I am Sorry"
not in those exact words, but with the same meaning and a little more brief but not long
Don't ask about the sorry part, ya I feel ashamed for something I did, but it's not cheating or anything close to that!
If I send it to the college (it's a small community one - where everyone "talks" ), WILL HIS BOSS HAVE TO READ IT and
is that a bad idea (writing the letter) ?
2007-11-23 04:50:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
why not write him a letter, but not go into the personal topics, just a friendly letter saying you wish you hadnt lost touch, that there is something you wish to discuss with him
that way, it wouldnt matter if anyone else did see it, and you could wait for him to contact you, perhaps with a home address or phone number, so that you could then discuss the issue that is really on your mind
2007-11-23 05:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1).....If the letter is addressed to your friend personally, nobody else should open it. If his boss did anything so openly dishonourable, he would be in trouble, not your friend.
2).....You don't say enough about your circumstances for the problem to be clear. Are you single? Is he? If you are both free, there's no reason, now you are no longer his student, not to initiate a relationship. In that case, you could write more openly and explicitly about your feelings and hopes.
3).....If you are not free, ask yourself seriously if there is a point in writing or sending such a letter. Either you are going to be serious about your principles, in which case draw a line under the past and start again, or you are going, indirectly perhaps, to wind up the man's feelings until he makes some kind of approach. That, you know, is not done.
4).....Be honest. If you don't want a relationship, no need to write. If you do, be straightforward about it, and give him a chance to be equally honest with you.
That is a lesson he himself might have taught you. He was, after all, your teacher.
2007-11-23 13:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by Michael B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not only will sending a letter most likely get him fired...but most likely result in some form of police investigation.
you sound like a very immature girl that needs to grow up.
want a tip?
your nice and assertive prof wants to plow you. how do i know that? he's a guy! why? because you're young, probably nothing has really drooped yet and guessing by your vocabulary and grammar...pretty naive and not too bright.
'sorry' chickie, the truth hurts.
if you and he had some sort of physical relationship and you are over 18...that's a bad decision on your part. if you are under 18, chances are you will get him thrown in the slammer.
tip: just screw around with boys your own age. old guys just want to use you for your body...because (and i know this for a 100% fact), younger girls have absolutely nothing intelligent to say and that their young bodies are the only saving grace.
as you get older (which you will 100%), start acquiring some world knowledge, opinions and an intellect. you will need these things as your attractiveness decreases exponentially with each passing month.
2007-11-23 13:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he has a secretary its possible that she opens his mail for him. Even if you put 'personal' on the letter you'd be taking a chance and it could hurt his reputation. I'm sure his boss has better things to do with his time than to read employee's mail.
Should you write the letter? I would say no. While you may have flirted with each other, he has moved on to his next class. Since he hasn't contacted you, it would indicate that his feelings for you are not as strong as your feelings for him.
2007-11-23 13:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by Judith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually, when you write a professor of a uni's department a letter and don't know the exact address of his office, they will still try to get that letter to him, not opened even if he moved away.
2007-11-23 14:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by socrates 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's kind of weird. What you need is a little self-control. From what you've said, it doesn't sound like you're actually in love.
2007-11-23 14:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by _ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋