My boyfreind of 8 months broke up with me the day before Thanksgiving. This werent going well, but i am crushed that he did this right before my birthday and Christmas. My question is....I already bought him some Christmas gifts. I ordered his mothers gift online. It took a long time and hard work to do her gift. It is very personal for her that she will always cherish. I really want her to have it. Can I send it to her in the mail? (My ex and his mom live in the same house). Or one night near Christams drop it off in her mailbox or at the door? I wont bother giving him his, but i really want her to have what I got her. I know she would adore it. Its a personal calendar I had made of her dog. It took 3 hours to get that dog to stay still. Also, I had already made out his mothers Christamas card. Could I still mail that? I also made out ones for his brother and sister, but I guess I shouldnt send them right? and dont send my boyfriend his right? Please help. I dont know what to do.
2007-11-23 04:35:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
I just feel a bit embarassed. I dont want him to throw away what i mail his mom. I doubt he would. Also, I dont know what he told his family about us or why we broke up, so I feel odd to still send them all their cards, but you know what, I just just do it anyway. Who cares. If its over anyway, it wont matter. I'll probably never see them again anyway. I DO KNOW I cannot be with him again because he has way many issues.. I just want to do the right thing around Christmas time thats all. That why I need your help! Thanks!
2007-11-23 04:50:52 · update #1
I am 28 years old
2007-11-23 04:56:01 · update #2
If I personally dropped off the moms gift and rang the doorbell. Either no one will answer the door Or just the mother will and he will probably be home standing right there. Or he may answer the door but i doubt it. This is very awkward for me. Its just him and his mom. The brother and sister do not live there.
2007-11-23 04:57:43 · update #3
I just thought of two things. What if I put no return address and godforbig it never gets to her? It will never come back to me for me to know she never received it if it gets lost in the mail. Another thing, I am taking some vacation days before Christmas. She is home all day. I could go to the house while he is at work and perseonally hand it to her, so I know she gets it and I wont have to worry. Does that sound like pushing it? or is that okay?
2007-11-23 05:35:52 · update #4
I'm getting divorced so you can send them to me if you like;)
2007-11-23 04:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by ryankneale 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you really want his Mom to have her gift, wait until the week or 4 days b/4 Christmas. If the two of you( ex boyfriend) don't get back together, go ahead and leave the present in a shopping bag outside their door..Or tell his Mom you would like to stop by when he isn't going to be home. Tell her you have a gift for her and you want to give it to her personally.
Go ahead and mail the cards 1 week b/4 Christmas. Write a little somerthing inside each. Mention under the circumstances, the spirit of christmas doesn't stop in your heart...You wish happiness and love for all... (good luck)
Keep your head up. Things happen for a reason. It may be a blessing in disguise!
2007-11-23 04:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by mom of a boy and girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could send his mums gift. I wouldnt go to the house as this might mean you end up getting upset and it may be embarrassing for his mum.
With his gifts, arent there any that would do as a gift for another male friend/family member? Could you take them back to the shop and get a refund? Then Id spend that money on a lovely pressie just for you to cheer you up.
I wouldnt send cards to his family as they will know you 2 arent an item anymore and this may cause him to get a bit defensive. Dont give him anything to gloat over (Im not saying he would) Walk away with your pride and dignity intact.
There will be someone out there just for you who will make you a very happy lady. You sound so nice so you really deserve a special person.
Good luck and have as nice a Christmas as you can, try not to mope.
Happy New Year.x
2007-11-23 04:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just send his Mums gift I am sure she will be really touched.
It is personal and no use to you. Ignore the rest of the family
or they make think you are chasing the ex. Also put a note in saying that you made this gift before the split and would take great pleasure from her having it from you . Keep the exes present it may come in for a last minute present one day
2007-11-23 04:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by ANDREA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lotsa gifting for an 8 month relationship.
Since it's only been 2 days, you might want to wait and see if you two get back together next week.
2007-11-23 04:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by Stuart 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, he's not your boyfriend anymore; I know that hurts, but you have to get used to it for your own good. Second, just because you aren't with someone, doesn't mean that you have to stop the relationships you've formed with his family, unless they are uncomfortable with it. So I say send the gifts I would mail them), cards, whatever to his family, but not to him. He gave up his present when he gave you up; both are his loss!
2007-11-23 04:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's sweet what you did.Give his mom the gift. she will love it.
and don't feel embarrassed. Your friendship with his mom is separate from your relationship with him.
Mail it to her with no return address and his mom will open it , no one else.
OK
Mail it with your Mom's or a friends address as the return address. That way if he sees it he will not know it's from you.
Or take the day off, call her and take her to lunch and give her the present.
Be a confident women.
2007-11-23 05:08:09 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ ♥ C.J. ♥ ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This year, gift everyone but the boyfriend. After 8 months, they've become family. As for next year, see how it goes with the family before you decide.
2007-11-23 04:42:00 · answer #8 · answered by stringer_G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For your ex try to find someone else who would enjoy it just as much.For the mom set the present on the door step and leave. That way hopefully she will no it was you and she would still adore it.
2007-11-23 04:40:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can give it to her you have every right. I would drop it off personally to her. That way you know she got it.
Sorry to hear of your breakup but im sure its for the best.
You will def meet someone else and he will just be a memory.
2007-11-23 04:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send them nothing. He is your ex and that is his fault. Cut all ties with the family. Don''t be pathetic. You just lost money. This just teaches you that next time wait until a man marries you before you start spending money on him and his mom and acting like they are family. She isn't your mother in law and he isn't your husband and his siblings aren't your siste/brother in law. Next time don't spend cash on just a peice of ***. Sorry for being so blunt. WOmen fall in love so quickly when men just get the p-u-ss-y and go.
2007-11-23 04:41:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋