I had this friend big christian huge bible basher and even though she often told me i was a sinner and going to hell we had loads of fun, she loved the gay bars i took her too and we often went and pretended to be a couple so no one would hit on her, we had the best friendship (apart from the odd "ur going to hell" thing)
I even went to her church once and her and her friends aboshed me with their bibles telling me I was a sinner....and i brushed it off cos i loved her and she always told me she loved me (10 years of friendship)
but one day...my mate is trans and basically she adored him (FTM) couldnt support him more and i questioned "y do you totally support him...but not me being gay??" and she said " I love God, but i do believe mistakes are made and people are put into the wrong bodys" but when i questioned my gender she done a total U turn and said i was wrong etc etc...that ended the friendship finally...but why did she react so badly?? she said she was supportive?? help!
2007-11-23 04:12:15 · 8 answers · asked by Katie 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
just to add...she went through abit of a 'ive lost God' phase and tried it on with me once before, and even though shes smoking hot i turned her down cos i knew she would regret it, and trust me when we was together out and about even when we werent pretending to be together we was both VERY touchy feely with eachother so people thought we was a couple anyways
2007-11-23 04:24:09 · update #1
Btw i just saw i didnt make it clear, I dumped her as a mate
2007-11-23 04:28:42 · update #2
Well...I think it's because she's like many other folks who can handle "weird" things or people from a distance until they find out they have friends like that themselves.
Maybe it's because she knew you before and didn't have any "clues" that she could have used to justify you being trans to her.
Whatever. Just be glad you're not her friend anymore because she's really not supportive. I'm reading the situation and it doesn't even seem like she has any respect for you or queer culture. It looks like it just something fun in a "let me laugh at all the sinners before they go to Hell" kind of way to her.
2007-11-23 04:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by Reverend X. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may have been an "arrangement" so nobody hit on her-but the bottom line is you were flirting with each other (thats the impression she was given anyway). what you should have done is said "we will go out together-but you have to realise my sexual orientation-we are not a couple-nor can we go through the motions of being a couple-if anyone tries it on tell him to get lost-if he gets awkward then call me". the bottom line is that the lady was (quite innocently on your part) given the wrong impression-she GENUINELY thought you liked her and you cannot blame her for feeling this way-she thinks you rejected her. sometimes in matters of the heart cupid can be quite cruel-two freinds who are very close came become emotionally attached-thats life. what you must now do is contact your freind for a good heart to heart-after ten years i can't see her telling you to shove it!. explain that although your intentions were quite innocent there seems to be a case of crossed wires here-a misunderstanding and it seems a pity to throw 10 years happy freindship away for it. explain that your love is great for her-but only as a freind (you could use the words "more like a sister). and could you start over. after all what is the greatest gift-but forgiveness.
2007-11-23 05:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by tony c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because all along she believed in the bible,, not being gay, she probably is having a hard time with her religion and being Friends with you,, the easiest thing was to dump you
2007-11-23 04:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mate needs to get her morals right just cos she likes this guy doesn't mean she can just go changing her mind about what her religion accepts and what she doesnt that doesn't sound fair i think she's tied between her morals and this guy but it isnt fair what she's done after 10 years of friendship between you guys.
2007-11-23 04:20:05 · answer #4 · answered by Little Miss FreakShow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that seems weird that see would do that, and i dont know why anyone would do that. if she said the "go to hell" thing sarcastically then she was probably joking, but just ask her why she reacted so badly. i think it was because she was at church (or was she?...), and she didnt want to look like she was supporting lgbt people at her church. just my guess, but idk for sure, so ASK
2007-11-23 04:49:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, weird friend, I think you are better off without her.
2007-11-23 04:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by jennysmith0214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
weird friend you have in there!
or maybe, she dont find you as attractive as your mate (FTM) ? lol
2007-11-23 04:17:04 · answer #7 · answered by OneWingedAngel 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she pluged u in her and you blew up.
2007-11-23 11:12:30 · answer #8 · answered by I represent possibility- Shawn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋