wacky in laws...?

Question

my baby's head had slightly elongated due to pressure when i was pushing- she was born 2 wks early. she's a month old now n her head has mostly gone back to it's normal shape. i'm aware that most babies are born like that n all it takes is laying them flat on their backs which will slowly fix their head shapes. when my mother in law was here, she would press my baby's head in order to bring it back to its normal shape. i wasn't comfortable w/it but she convinced my hubby that she knows wat she's doin coz she raised 4 sons n did the same to them. my baby would scream @ the top of her lungs when she pressed her head in her hands. now she's talkin about pickin up my baby by her head only when she turns 3 months so that her neck can become longer. is this just dangerous or what? i hate having my baby being treated like a little lab rat n its really pissin me off that my in laws take so much control over things i'm not comfy with. isn't it dangerous doing that to a baby? what should i say

Answer 1

This is so dangerous I almost threw up my pizza when I read it. DO NOT LET YOUR INSANE MOTHER IN LAW PICK UP YOUR BABY BY THE HEAD.

She does NOT know what she's doing. The compressing the head bit nearly made me want to pick up my monitor and throw it at my own mother-in-law. Head compression is dangerous because the plates of the head haven't fused yet. The brain is so delicate and fragile and she's squishing your baby's head like a freakin' nerf ball. She could be causing brain damage or swelling.

This is incredibly dangerous to do to a baby. Her neck is not strong enough (at any point) to suspend the weight of her body from it. This practice could not only damage her spine, and permanently at that, but it could kill her. Obviously you MIL practice is dangerous or her own son wouldn't be brain damaged enough to allow anyone to do that to his baby.

I'm with you girlfriend, protect your baby from that menacing, psychotic, know-it-all who knows nothing important, child abusing jerk.

Answer 2

Stop the woman now! Most babies come out looking like extras for the movie coneheads but in time their heads will reshape themselves as the bones become harder and as for picking the baby up by the head that will do harm to the childs neck and spine potentially causing scoliosis. so the next time she comes over pick the baby up and dont let the nut near her. i have two kids and never done this and their heads are perfectly normal. also make sure the nut leaves the soft spots alone she might decide that it may help to push those too.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Whoa... and I thought MY MIL was a piece of work!

Hun, for the safety of your baby, keep her away! If you can't, then simply take your baby and say 'no, my child, my rules' if she doesn't like it, she can stay away. BUT, you really need your husband's support on this. Do research on Google, print out the articles and show him that his mother is wrong!! He needs to stand with you on this one.

Good luck! And if all else fails, if she comes round, lock yourself and baby in a room and never leave that nutjob alone with your baby.

Sheesh... just when I thought nothing else could shock me!

Answer 5

I'm surprised this nut case didn't kill one of those 4 boys. You are correct about the baby's head... and this is YOUR baby, not hers. Just tell your husband and her that you will follow your doctor's instruction on proper care and handling, and no doctor in his right mind would tell a mother to squeeze a baby's head so hard she screams. What a moron.

Answer 6

Take your husband to a child care class or talk with your pediatrician.
You daughter cannot stand up for herself right now, you need to be her voice, her protector. Like everyone else said, when she starts doing something to YOUR child that you are uncomfortable with, say no and take your daughter away from her. I know that sometimes this is easier said than done. Good luck.

Answer 7

Say no as loud as you possibly can. If your husband thinks this is a good idea, have him call the pediatrician to ask him. I guarantee you that he will not call him. That is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. That's just cruel to do that to a child.

Answer 8

Holy crap, no that is so unsafe, she sounds wacko! NEVER EVER let her do that... why would you need your baby's neck longer anyways? unless she is in one of those tribes that do that... she sounds like a nutcase! I'd keep her away and lay down the law, this is YOUR child, not hers to be doing these things to!!

Answer 9

I wouldn't let my in-laws touch my baby like that. It is dangerous. If they insist on doing it don't let them go with your baby. She is much safer in your arms mommy. Talk to your hubby and let him know that its not safe for the baby.

Answer 10

My goodness!! No, it isn't good to lift a baby up by her head....this is your child not your mother in laws.....put your foot down and don't let her do it.....doesn't matter if she gets offended or angry....better to keep your child safe!! Do not allow them the control.