serious answers please .if a baby is born and parents choose to make him male will he be a normal male?is it a common practice for these people to try and blend in and ruin another persons life by marrying them knowing there will in a short period of time be no sex life because they are living a lie? if you found out you had been defrauded in this manner is it grounds for annulment? do people marry the opposite sex just to appear normal?if such a fraud took place and the person also said something about another co-worker but let their poor unsuspecting wife be fired for it what recourse would she have in reclaiming her job and life? i think it is disgusting to hide and lie about anything so important and to use someone to gain things you could never get on your own while single handedly ruining their reputation and life.any answers are appreciated and are there any clear cut ways to know because when you deal with a selfish habitual liar asking is a waste of time????
2007-11-23 03:57:01 · 6 answers · asked by dixie58 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You seem to be confusing hermaphrodism and homosexuality -- they are NOT one and the same.
Intersexed people (the word "hermaphrodite" is considered offensive and should be avoided) are those who are born with genitalia that are in some way ambiguous, so that looking at this child, it is difficult to tell at first glance whether the child is male or female. This is a more common condition than one might think -- approximately 1 out of every 2000 babies are born intersexed. Up till recently, doctors would advise parents to have the child's genitalia surgically "corrected" to look more specifically male or female and then raise the child as that gender. Almost always, the intersexed child's genitalia would arbitrarily be "corrected" to look female, since it is surgically much easier for the doctors to remove excess tissue (such as a micro-penis) to create a female vulva, than it is for them to add tissue to construct male organs. The trouble was that they would perform this surgery when the child was still too young to know or express his or her gender identity. Half the time the child would in fact be a girl, the other half the time, the child would grow up identifying as male -- but with surgically corrected female genitalia and with parents who, on the doctors' orders, were raising him as a girl. Nowadays medical opinion is slowly changing, to the idea that "corrective" surgery on intersexed children is unnecessary or should at least wait until the child is old enough to know and decide for him or herself what gender he or she identifies as. The condition of being intersexed has nothing to do with whether one is homosexual, heterosexual, or bisexual.
The vast majority of homosexuals, OTOH, were not born intersexed and were clearly either male or female at birth. Homosexuals are people who love and sexually desire others of their own sex. Some homosexual ("gay" or "lesbian") people are aware of their desire for others of their own sex but due to intense social pressures from family, friends, religious beliefs, etc, choose to marry a member of the opposite sex, in the hope that this will "cure" them of their homosexual feelings, or help make them fit in and be more socially acceptable. Others marry a member of the opposite sex at an early age (again due to family or social pressure) and then realize after marriage, that they are homosexual. In both cases, they come to realize that marriage to a member of the opposite sex does NOT make their homosexual feelings and desires go away, and that their marriage is indeed a lie.
As for whether such a lie is grounds for annulment of the marriage, you would have to speak to a clergy person of your church. I'm pretty sure it would be grounds for a civil divorce.
If you are married to a closeted homosexual, I would think YOUR reputation and life are not in danger of being ruined. You married this person in good faith, believing they were heterosexual and loved you -- its they who proved not to be who they said they were.
2007-11-23 04:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hermaphrodites are an exception to the rule of thumb.there is an evident difference and that they are particularly the way God made them. all an identical regulations nonetheless stick to nevertheless, which incorporate no longer having premarital or extramarital intercourse. they only have one greater option to make. we've a kin buddy who has this subject. a guy or woman with the two are regularly greater one intercourse than the different so the alternative is in all probability no longer a complicated one. i think the ultimate subject is to enable the baby become adulthood and it will understand which intercourse it maximum identifies with, then they might choose for to be whichever intercourse they perceive with. i do no longer think of a discern or dr. might desire to ever make that determination for a small baby or toddler.God bless!! I might desire to declare to uncannydanny, whether i understand you mean properly...it is not a sin to be a hermaphrodite. basically to have intercourse outdoors of marriage. Being born with the two intercourse organs isn't a sin. specific we are all sinners yet it is not sin. Respectfully.Bert i could choose to declare to Skippy, it is the furthest subject from the reality. We had a hermaphrodite stay with us for many months and have been very respectful. I do have self assurance you're very disrespectful to fundamentalist nevertheless. i'm uncertain why. in line with probability somebody wasn't severe high quality to you or something. yet my Christian pals are respectful human beings.
2016-11-12 11:44:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fail to make any sense of what you are saying. Hermphrodites are genitically both sexes, but that is very very rare. You couldn't call them gay or straight. The saying Go frick yourself, Says it all for that kind of person. As for parents, My mother tried to turn me into a girl when I was young giving me dolls and cooksets and toys only meant for girls and I was male all the way. Think of what that has done to me. How it shaped me. Parents play a big role in their childs life. I was the 8th born 5 males 3 females. Sometimes I blame my Parents, But now I've excepted who I am. Took a long time and it ruined my life. I have pretty much hatred for myself because I'm woman stuck in maleness.
2007-11-23 04:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want gay people to lie about their orientation, then do everything you can in this life to make the world a comfortable place for people to be who they are... It's the bigotry and the ignorance regarding homosexuality that is solely responsible for "the closets" existence...
2007-11-23 04:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Talk about not being serious. What put the burr under your saddle?
How many issues are you talking about here? And does any of it actually have to do with hermaphroditism?
2007-11-23 04:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
firstly, hermaphrodite is now considered a hateful term, so please use inner-sex.
Secondly, if you love someone, you don't care, and you don't consider it a lie, because their parents chose to raise them as a male or female.
2007-11-23 04:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by red92fh 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋