Most people hear about the elderly and vulnerable who are mentally abused by their carer... what you don't often hear... is the carer who gets abused mentally from the person they are looking after.
In this case I am the abused carer here
I have a live in and on duty 25 hr day 8 day a week care position
I go to bed most nights crying
I have looked for other work... as this is not my preferred position.... but took this one on as unable to find other work... I have no accomodation... so this makes it even more difficult to leave. How do I get out of this situation??? I want a normal job.. and my own accomodation so that I can get my life back. I am CRB checked, owner car driver, independent lady, who is just looking for a proper place in life.
2007-11-23 01:45:41 · 5 answers · asked by sensual one 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I am sorry that you are in this situation and I do understand I used to be a nurse and was assulted on more than one occasion.
Before you leave report this person to the authorities as they will think twice about sending someone else there.
Is there not anyone you can report this too now?
Can you try an agency as they do have hundreds of jobs that require to live in.
Are you not entitled to a day or two off a week where you are it is against the law to work here in UK such long hours.
2007-11-23 01:57:28 · answer #1 · answered by momof3 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is only one way to get out of the situation - start applying for other jobs - hard as that may be to achieve at the moment - law of averages syas that at some point a new one will come along.
As you are CRB checked and clear presumably, start looking at schools - lots of schools are looking for assistants to work with the kids etc etc.
Another point of call would be the local council website - they often promote carers jobs on the sites and are always looking for reliable carers to work in their homes etc etc - even drivers are needed quite regularly.
There are lots of opportunities out there - you just need to know where to look.
2007-11-23 09:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by jamand 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear about your situation.
On reflection, I think you are like anyone in any type of abusive relationship: the abuser wears down your self-esteem to give themselves a feeling of power. No doubt he/she is actually lonely, isolated, and afraid that you will leave, so they set out to weaken you and enslave you.
You need to work on yourself with mental and spiritual exercises, to give yourself the strength to escape what is more a mental prison than anything, even though at present you have no other job or accommodation.
Whatever spiritual resources you may have, use them to build up your resolve. Read inspiring texts, admire beauty wherever you can find it, and eventually you will find a solution to your problem.
2007-11-23 10:09:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a good Idea but , in the meantime While your serching and puting in the time with your abuser, practice being understanding , Because this kind of abuse goes on ALL the time, threw out life , IT"S common infact it is so much a part of every life that the devorce courts are Full to overflowing , so practice ,being one of the few who can take a likin and keep on tickin ,, understanding is one great trait,,, and just between you and me when you listen without reacting ,,things cool down . { in most cases } not all,,,, most.
2007-11-23 10:26:09 · answer #4 · answered by darkcloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im guessing your in the UK. So therefore contact social services. All carers are entitled to their own social worker who works in the interest of the carer not the service user. They can give you all the support you need. Contact your local office and ask to be referred to the carer's social worker.
2007-11-23 10:48:49 · answer #5 · answered by Redhead 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋