Would you change part of your personality or "who you are" to stop your boyfriend/partner from dumping you?
If he asked you to do that, would you do it? xx
2007-11-23 01:31:49 · 59 answers · asked by Miss Notorious 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I'm not meaning a little quirky thing....I mean something you believe in very strongly......xx
2007-11-23 01:32:18 · update #1
Hun, You are who you are ! Don't change that for anyone especially not a boyfriend. If they cant love you for who you are then get rid. You deserve better than that. Please just be yourself.
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2007-11-23 01:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by Debs 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not he should accept you for who you are. You are a human being in your own right and this to me would sound like controlling behaviour if he has told you to change. If he is criticizing you then this is no way to carry on. I think you could do a lot better than that. If he can't give you some positive feelings then dump him before he dumps you.
2007-11-23 01:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by BigMomma2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger I used to say "Never".
But now that I've grown older, I realize there are things we have to analyze about ourselves, and improving weak points in our personality may be one of them, and if a partner gives me a constructive criticism so I can be a better person and make our relationship stronger, I believe I have to work on that as much as i expect him to work on his weak points that hinder us from being totally happy in our relationship.
LOL this is the first serious answer I gave after using my new avatar.
2007-11-23 01:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite a few people would change their personality to suit the guy they like, but it is the wrong thing to do. If your not yourself what's the point of dating this guy when obviously it's not YOU he likes. If a guy doesn't like me for me, then I get over it and move on. It's hard but that's the way it is. Don't waste your time!
And that goes even more so if it's something I really believe in!
2007-11-23 01:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by RLJ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No way - if you believe in it strongly why should you change it. Remember the reasons you believe in it so strongly and decide whether your boyf's worth changing for. In the long term, changing your beliefs (in fact it would be more like going AGAINST your beliefs) will make you more unhappy than losing your boyfriend now.
2007-11-23 01:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by Nicola 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For a relationship to really be healthy and loving there has to be compromise. That being said, if its just who I am as a person and he's the only one that has a problem with it because of some selfish or petty reason, then no.
2007-11-23 01:38:47 · answer #6 · answered by kharilli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if its something I strongly believe in then sorry I won't and if a boyfriend/partner cannot accept me for who I am then that would be tough luck and I wouldn't turn myself into a Stepford Wife for anyone.
2007-11-23 01:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by Only visiting 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i done that one time so he would keep me he wanted me to lose a little weight even though i was a size 10 at the time and he wanted me to change my personality a bit to and because i loved him i did but a couple of months later he dumped me anyway
dont do it theres someone better out there that will love you just the way you are
2007-11-23 01:36:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Compromise is important in a relationship. Giving it all his way tho...thats not compromise.....depends what he wants to change about you I suppose but is there no way you can meet in the middle? A long hard talk is in order me thinks....maybe that will help clarify how you both feel about each other and if you have a future together!
Good luck!
2007-11-23 02:23:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not change someone about me simply to please another person. If someone does not like me for who I am, then they are not worth having in my life.
However, if you are able to see this "something" as a character flaw -- one that continuously negatively affects your relationships and ability to find happiness and peace in life, then I would seriously consider changing that part of your personality.
Remember: Never change for another; only for the goodness of your well-being. You are the only person that it guaranteed to be with you forever.
2007-11-23 01:41:15 · answer #10 · answered by ToniSB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way not if its a big thing that you strongly believe in doing if he loves you enough he will live with that part of you just like if you love him you wouldnt want him to change either
obviously there are exceptions to this e.g drug taking, criminal acts etc etc etc
2007-11-23 01:35:16 · answer #11 · answered by clare w 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋