You were born of their union, of their love.
If they stop loving one another, you better get out of the way. They will secretly hate you.
Your old self dies and you're born again. With no parents....
that's my exact real experience.
2007-11-22 23:06:18 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds from your details that your parent's are taking out the breakdown of their marriage on you (and their other children) by reflecting that pain and anger to you. That means that they have not put their personal feeling aside about the other person and taken the time to affirm to you that you ARE loved regardless of whether they are together or not. Not sure if you (or either of your parents) are going to counselling, so if not, you need to be brave and approach each one and say "I love you, but they way that you have been acting doesn't make me feel loved or wanted. Is that true?" That should start the healing process. Best wishes.
2007-11-23 01:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by Cuz'n B A Dub 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever age you are, if your parents get divorced, that does not make you an orphan. More importantly, it certainly DOES NOT mean that your parents hate you. It's not the child's fault that the parents no longer wish to be together, but that does not mean that they love you any less, unless the words have come straight from their own mouths. Although my parents are not divorced, they might as well be, in my personal opinion. They rarely spend any time with each other these days. My mother goes away every weekend to stay at this man's house whom she calls a friend, but I can never help but suspect that it's more than friendship. My parents don't even sleep in the same bed anymore. However, that does not mean that they hate me & they are still my parents.
An orphan is someone who does not have any parents, not someone who's parents have divorced. Your mum & dad will always be your mum & dad, married or not. Hope I've helped.
2007-11-23 07:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by highland_white_wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't make you an orphan. That might have been the case with your life, then be the best you can be. If your parents stopped loving you then you are better off without them. Why do you think they stopped loving you. Most parents fight over the children because usually that is the best thing that comes from the relationship.
2007-11-23 07:13:20 · answer #3 · answered by ladydaisy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No here I have a difference of opinion. There can be something wrong between husband and the wife which they are not able to patch up but the love for their child will remain. At least we have seen in India parents fighting for the position of the child/ children and mostly the ladies win the case because they can easily bring them up. Of course the security is assured from the husband for bring up of the child / children.
2007-11-23 07:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by uncle cyril 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A orphan is someone who has no parents. Your parents hate each other and it just seems that they hate you because you are the child, but they do not hate you they love you and I hope some day you will see that.
2007-11-23 07:14:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you did become an orphan. Very sorry! You can be "born again" and become part of the worldwide family of Christians. You would be welcomed and loved.
2007-11-23 07:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by saddlesore 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They will not hate you and you are not an orphan you have parents and you know who they are only it is a bad thing hat they are no together anymore which is really hard to live with...
2007-11-23 07:09:52 · answer #7 · answered by angie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when they divorced, that does not mean that they don't love you anymore. that only means that they cant fix their relationship and make it last anymore. what you did was when they broke up, you also broke up with them. you cut the ties that bonds you and your parents. they still love you even if they are separated. and that does not make you an orphan. because even if they had separated, they are still there for you. you might not know it and feel it, but wherever you are, they will still look for you and be behind you always.
2007-11-23 07:11:05 · answer #8 · answered by charm_me 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They do not hate you. You still have your parents, but they are not the same people that meet and fell in love. something happened along the way to ruin that, what happens only effects you to the point that they no longer live in the same house.
I had four children with my ex, but my kids are all the love of my life. I love him still, only because he is the father of my children, and when i see and talk to them I see him.
2007-11-23 07:12:27 · answer #9 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents don't, can't and won't ever hate you. The breakdown of their marriage has nothing to do with you.
Do not internalize it. You only become an orphan if both parents are deceased.
2007-11-23 07:08:59 · answer #10 · answered by T Leeves 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋