I'm tired of all these people getting bent out of shape because they decided for a little variety during marriage.
Why not take the "cheat" out of the equation.
Erase that word and have an open marriage.
Honestly....does one more sex partner make that much of a difference when you've had so many during your single years?
If you're worried about you getting jelous becasue you can't handle your spouse being with somebody else....guess what...most people already were with somebody else.
So why does one more make any bit of difference?
Does it cause you that much mental anguish to know that you weren't the only one they were hot and sweaty with?
2007-11-22 22:59:53 · 16 answers · asked by male.confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By leaving their sorry ***,What planet do you live on people are dying from deadly diseases because somebody cheated,Aids is cheaters disease and all the other nasty stuff out there.I know somebody right now who is dying because they cheated on their mate and they wish they could do it all over different now it's to late,they should of never cheated on their mate in the first place.Now they need them to take care of them and their not there to help them and to tell you the truth i don't feel sorry for them either.
2007-11-22 23:21:04 · answer #1 · answered by Robin M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably the best way is that before you involve yourself in a commitment , have a continuing honest communication with your spouse about this subject - and without being paranoid about the subject or fearful of an ongoing discussion , agree to be honest if there ever is an affair,and/or agree to split before any cheating takes place. Know that the chances of an affair are obviously in the works. Better to face it with courage and to believe in yourself that you have the capacity to find a new better partner and that your current partner has the right to be with another intimately if that is there true desire and they are honest about it. It is not the end of the world . There are plenty of other fish in the sea. Live and let live and go your own way without condemnations and bad feelings . Amen !
2007-11-23 07:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you not getting any? Or are you just an asshole.
We live with the fact that our partners have exes, as we have exes ourselves.
But we didn't go sleeping around with the entire country to get these exes. We had meaningful relationships that went wrong somewhere along the line and weren't worth fixing.
If i was looking for a little extra, it would only be because my partner wasn't doing the right job, hence the jealousy. If that was the case, he wouldn't be my partner anymore.
2007-11-23 08:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Miller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely and people with your view definately should not be married. Hence,,,,the whole purpose of getting married in the first place. If you feel that you are not ready to settle down why marry in the first place? YOu could be completely free to roam and do as you please. Secondly with STD's on the rise that you can contract just by skin to skin contact why take the risk. The bigger problem is that you are really suffering from low self esteem and are looking to fill the void in your self in the wrong manner.
2007-11-23 07:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by The Red Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Variety is not part of the marriage equation. I have strayed from my wife just recently and was discovered and now feel immense guilt and sorrow for the hurt I have caused her. If you do not feel gut-wrenching guilt if you have other partners, I truly question your commitment to the sanctity of marriage.
We may be social creatures at our core, marriage changes those rules in favor of lasting friendship and commitment.
Seek some help to work out what your relationship to your wife truly means to you.
2007-11-23 09:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by stratman53 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to go out and have sexual encounters, with no consequences, then don't get married. No one forces any one into getting married, so if you did it, then take your vows seriously. COMMITMENT. If you couldn't, or don't want to commit to one person, then get out of the marriage, it is that simple. The wife has the right not to have to worry about getting a decease from some one night stand.
2007-11-23 07:07:33 · answer #6 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are with someone you already know you weren't the first. What happened did you get caught? Are you trying to convince yourself that multiple partners whiled married is okay? If you are married then why did you get married in the first place?
2007-11-23 07:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by BEAUTIFUL STRANGER 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're married to the right person...neither one of you would even entertain the idea of being with somebody out side of the marriage
2007-11-23 07:03:45 · answer #8 · answered by T Leeves 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are so hell bent with sleeping with other people whilst being married and do not like the stigma of being a cheat then join a swingers party. get your wife's opinion and if she divorces you then hey prsto your single again if not then neither of you can feel guilty with sleeping with other people.
2007-11-23 07:05:20 · answer #9 · answered by michala p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, then you have no idea of what a marriage is really about. Without that unswaying commitment, you're just a couple of 'f*ckbuddies' who share a home.
2007-11-23 07:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by My Evil Twin 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋