He has cheated on me twice already, but the first time was a week after my dad passed away and with someone much older than me. He knew my dad ment everything to me, but still he had to go out and enjoy himself. The second one was with his sister's friend. I want him to feel the pain, anger, humiliation etc that I've felt. So, should I cheat on him now?
2007-11-22 22:31:15 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your feeling makes sense but better to leave him then degrade ur self for revenge. i don't mean sex is wrong but just to have an affair for only revenge will be degrading Ur self
if other wise u like some one go for it
2007-11-22 23:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have learned quite a few things lately the hard way. Let me help you with some more just in case you haven't learned these yet:
1. There is no Santa Claus
2. Life is not fair
3. All men cheat
If you need anymore advice email me. If you meet someone that you are attracted to and I were you I would cheat because no matter what he tells you he will cheat again.
2007-11-23 02:38:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, don't do that. Don't sink down to his level. I would honestly recommend some serious marriage counseling, or honestly, a divorce. This man does not deserve you. But do NOT cheat on him. It will only make you feel worse. When I was a child, my mom had an affair...and then once my dad found out, he went and had an affair with her best friend. It tore our entire family apart. I'm not sure if you have children, but I remember losing all respect for both of my parents. I am so sorry about your father, and so sorry that a man has done this to you. Please consider all of your options before deciding what to do.
2007-11-22 23:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by Chantal 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You want to cheat on him because you are feeling vindictive and revengeful and want him to feel the same thing. Well, men do not associate love and sex so if you do cheat on him i highly doubt that he will feel the same way that you do about it. In fact, it might give him another stupid reason to cheat again. What i would suggest is that you go to a support group or talk to someone who can relate to you instead. That way, you get rid of those bad feelings, and in a way, getting back at your husband when he realizes what his cheating has led to. Good Luck
2007-11-23 10:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by boodoll33 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! He will get his just desserts in the end remember always be bigger and better than the next person two wrongs don't make it right.And by the way why? Are you still with this Low Life he does'nt have any RESPECT for you or his self or he would'nt cheat on you in the first place.Twice you are better than me i would of left after the first time honey you can do better believe me i did and now they want me back.now they feel what i felt when they cheated on me.
2007-11-22 23:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by Robin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone is going to tell you no but honestly..i think you should. i think you should divorce him also. but first..cheat on him. and tell him about it. tell him you met a guy who was so attractive and built that you just couldnt resist yourself. the temptation was just too great. let him feel the pain he made you feel.
other people will say thats immature and why sink to his level but i disagree. sometimes people need a taste of their own medicine. if my husband cheated on me..i would go out and do the same to him. then the next day i would serve the divorce papers. and i would also tell him how much better the other guy was in bed and how it made me realize i didnt want to even bother trying to work out the marriage with him anymore because there are so many other men out there with great bedroom skills!
2007-11-23 06:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for the loss of your father. I have been in your shoes so many times. I was married for 17 years. I finally did cheat at the end of the marriage (it was after my heart was already out of it though and my body soon followed) He never found out about it, but he suspected. Truthfully, I never really regretted it because I did try to make it work (over and over and over, after his infidelities.) Sometimes it is just best to move on and start fresh. I wish it didn't take me 27 years to figure that out.
2007-11-22 22:58:54 · answer #7 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
here is the puzzle of men, they usually do cheat with the more unattractive and uncomparable women. which would leave a beautiful woman like yourself to wonder what you have done wrong. the answer is 2 wrongs don't make a right. if you are feeling resentment and feel this is worth the investment go to counseling, if not leave that bum. besides he didn't know what he had, at least not until it's gone.
2007-11-22 22:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by Roxanne G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do not lower your standers because he has none. you made an excuse for him to cheat when you said it was when your dad passed. he is a selfish lout and not worthy of a second thought.
i promise you if you go out and cheat it will not hurt him as it will you in the long run. be kind to yourself and take care of YOU.
move on
2007-11-23 03:45:36 · answer #9 · answered by Cymbaline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can cheating be used as a tool of revenge? If cheating means that you hide the affair from your spouse, it wouldn't really serve the purpose you expect it to.
2007-11-23 01:37:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. you take the moral high ground and don't sink to his level. If you cheat you are just as bad as him. Get a divorce, take some time for yourself, and be independant. He will be kicking himself in due time and when he tries to get back together- you say NO.
2007-11-22 22:35:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋