y dont i care if hes married?

Question

been with my man for 3 yrs and i love him alot and i have no plans on leaving him.we decided to have a kid in the first week by the end of the month i was pregnant,now our daughter will b 2 soon and im one month pregnant.im very happy with him.it doesnt bother me that hes married i dont worry when he is not with me.i dont care or think about his wife.he takes very good care of me and he loves his daughter so much,he has all boys with the wife.when we are together we are very happy.i have no copliants when hes gone home,we talk about living together but i dont care when it happens.i didnt plan on wrecking anyones home but i fell in love.i dont care or worry about the wife.y is it that i dont care that he is married.am i horrible person

Answer 1

You shouldn't worry much about ruining others life so long you're enjoying it...but for how long will he last with you before he starts this with another woman? would love to hear how you'll feel, and yeah you're horrible!

Answer 2

You need to answer this question for YOURSELF!

Only YOU know why you do not care about this man's wife or his marriage. Any answers that you get here on Yahoo Answers will be just speculation.

Without knowing you ... I would say that it sounds like you
THINK that you are very happy ... You say that this man loves
YOU and he loves his daughter .... and that he takes care of
you ... You SAY that you have NO COMPLAINTS ... Well, I say that IF that were true .... then WHY are you writing this
question??? ... Do you WANT to care??? Do you think that you SHOULD care???

This man has made vows to HIS WIFE ... and he has children
with her. (By the way ... HIS boys ... with his wife .... are your
daughter's brothers .... How are you guys planning on working
THAT out???

If you are TRULY happy as you say .... Then continue with what you are doing ... However, you MUST realize that there
are "sometimes" long-range consequences to our PRESENT
day actions. Consequences that both YOU and YOUR CHILDREN will have to live with. (Maybe YOU don't care
about "sharing" a man .... But (in the future) YOUR CHILDREN "may" care about having to SHARE THEIR FATHER.

You have ALREADY stated that you don't care or worry about
his wife ... Do you realize that "his wife" is NOT the ONLY
person that your situation is effecting??? What about HER
children .... and AGAIN .... what about YOURS!

And finally ... IF you don't care about HIS WIFE .... then WHY
SHOULD ANYBODY CARE ABOUT YOU???

You asked if you were a "horrible person?" ... I don't think
that a HORRIBLE person would have bothered to ask THAT
question.

MAYBE ... YOU CARE MORE THAN YOU THINK!

Answer 3

If you have not been caught by his wife after 3 years more than likely you will not be caught cheating. If he has not left his wife after 3 years and you have his child he is most likely not going to leave her. No, I do not think you are a horrible person. We cannot choose who we fall in love with. I too am in love with a married man and am now seeing that if they are not willing to leave there wife then you are just wasting your time when you could have a much healthier relationship with someone single. This is your life and you have to live it. You have to make yourself happy. Good Luck with everything.

Answer 4

Jeremiah 17:9 “the guts is greater deceitful than all else And is desperately sick; Who can comprehend it?" Then Jeremiah 17:10 “I, the LORD, seek the guts, I try the innovations, Even to grant to each and each guy in accordance to his techniques, in accordance to the end results of his deeds. in actuality you may believe your innovations. the guy you think of you're in love with is a creep. the way he says he feels for you is perchance the comparable way he reported he feels to his spouse while he first met her. in case you circulate with him, you will sooner or later be the spouse who gets cheated on by using fact he needed somebody new. the guy took his vows along with his spouse. those are between the main severe vows you ever soak up your existence. If he's that quite some a creep that he cant save those, Im beneficial he's mendacity to you each and all of the time approximately leaving his spouse and how plenty he loves you. My advice is do away with the guy, and then circulate tell his spouse the actuality approximately your relationship if it quite is something you wish somebody might permit you already know sooner or later in the journey that your husband grew to become into cheating on you.

Answer 5

My opinion? It's horrible!

But. What's done is done.
I've only lived in a society that raised me to believe your situation is horrible. But, were I to use a little critical thought, I'd consider that there are other societies - thousands of years old - that do not see your situation as horrible. Quite the opposite actually.

Although, in those societies, the women know of each other, and even live together with the man and their children (for the most part), your situation is altered due to our society's restraints and taboos.

Ultimately, your situation was not the Christian thing to do -- one God, one spouse -- and all that. But I guess we can't all be Christians. (Thank God I am)

Good luck.

Answer 6

You're not a horrible person but your unhealthy need to be with this guy is clearly clouding your judgment. Obviously, he is not going to take any sort of responsibility for himself, he will just continue being with both of you out of convenience for himself...so at some point, you're going to have to make a decision to move on. I'm sure you'd probably like to live in this mini-fantasy world and not think of tomorrow, but you've already been doing this for three years. That's three years of you taking the emotional and physical crumbs from his relationship with her.

Don't you deserve better for yourself? If you don't think so, you should start.

Answer 7

uncoditional love can be great for awhile but eventually it will start to bother you when you get older and you want to be with someone more and he still goes home to his wife you will eventually feel like you could never fill her shoes and because youre asking these questions the time is near. i don't believe you should break his marriage up but if you have been with him this long and have kids together you should start thinking about what youre kids will ask when they get old enough and the answers you will give them. how many other women are in his life do you know?

Answer 8

You're not a horrible person, just an immoral one. What about the children of yours? What do they get out of life? You obviously don't apply much thought towards your life or your childrens'. You're a loser. I hope his wife finds out about you two and leaves his sorry azz. Then guess what...as usual you'll be alone with the kids because he still won't want to be with you exclusively. No offense, but you must only be 1/2 of a woman.

Answer 9

You don't have much care for others???????????
She will eventually learn this, if she don't already knows? He won't divorce and won't go live with you. There are some clauses in his marriage and will stay put. You lack of brain. You don't even care if you're a horrible person? What a shame, he's not the only guy in the world......
You're messed up lady.....

Answer 10

I think that you had his kids because you could keep a hold on him.You seem to be on a cushy number there.What makes you think that there aren't another few women out there having this man's kids too? Ever thought of that? Like others on here, I do feel sorry for the kids, and his wife.Adults can be so selfish.