Why is my husband no longer attracted to me?

Question

Why does he not like me anymore, he is no longer attracted to me. Please help I am an English lady in distress

Answer 1

Ask your husband. He'd know better than a bunch of online strangers.

Answer 2

:( that's sad that you feel that way. Maybe your relationship has just become too routine and too predictable. Buy some new lingerie and surprise him with it. Take him back to a place you went when you were first in-love. Do something out of the ordinary! Its probably not anything wrong with you, it's probably just your relationship has gotten into a rut. Do it in the car or something to make you both excited again.
Don't feel bad about yourself. remember to look after yourself like you would if you were single, dress up for him, do your hair and nails and makeup. Make the relationship feel new again. And definately communicate with him, maybe there is something goin on under the surface - like he's stressed at work or he's not feeling 100%. Maybe you need a nice holiday together? good luck!

Answer 3

Hi,i know this feeling only too well,it is not nice when you love someone to be pushed away ,you dont say how old he is(mine is 60) so maybe it is that he cannot DO what he used to so he pushes you away to save himself the embarrassment of not being able to perform.After suffering agonies for over two years i found this was the problem.If this is not your problem and he has fallen out of love with you then sadly it is time to let him go,it hurts i know but there is nothing more depressing than hanging on to someone that no longer wants you,hoping they will change their mind.I hope it is just the first reason because you can get help with it.

Answer 4

Try being pleasant at all appropriate times. We often get into the habit of nagging and controlling our husbands to the point that we don't realize we're doing it, and we remind them of their mothers... I got this book called "Created to be his Help Meet". It has reference to scripture, and it is amazing! Within 5 minutes of reading the first chapter and doing it, my husband did a complete 180. By the 2nd day and 2nd chapter, we were chasing each other around the house playing "tickle monster" Btw, changing your appearance may help a lot, have you ever noticed that you think all pleasant and generally-perky people are attractive. Even when you know they're not, they always seem so, because they are always wearing a smile. I know it sounds cheesy, but its the sexiest thing you will ever put on...

Answer 5

There's no way a bunch of strangers online can give you accurate information.

However, I've found that direct communication is ALWAYS the best course of action. It won't be fun to ask him, but you'll be glad you did -- you'll at least get a straight answer, rather than wallowing in doubt and mystery.

Also, when you say he doesn't "like" you anymore, do you mean he's actually cold and unfriendly, or do you mean he just doesn't want to be intimate? If it's the latter, please know that passion very often burns out after awhile -- but if you have other things in common, they can still make the relationship worthwhile.

Answer 6

Attraction is only a desire love is different does he still love you is he with you because he feels it is duty ask him maybe it is time to start a new life don't hold on to what you would like if a man doesn't love you it is time to separate and part ways an example for you my dear a man is a boy at heart he buys a new car and it is shinny and cool that car gets old and needs to be replaced for a newer model a old car is fine if its performance is still top notch maybe you need a tune and over haul good luck and please don't think i am being horrible i don't mean to be Dave

Answer 7

Are you sure he is no longer attracted to you? I felt the same way about my Honey and he was wondering why he was no longer able to perform but we didn't communicate our feelings or thoughts. Then we found out he has diabetes and high blood pressure. Now we know what and why and are working on options. It could be medical but I would suggest a heart to heart talk with your Honey to make sure you are on the same track. Anything strong enough to bring you two to the alter should be strong enough to keep you together and happy.

Answer 8

You haven't given many details as to why he is no longer attracted to you. Perhaps you may need to change the way you go about things or try a new look, lose weight etc. There are many reasons why one's husband or even wife can lose interest in their partner.

Answer 9

I hate to tell you he has fallen out of love with you. The chemistry is no longer there. It's time for you to move on. He's having an affair with someone Else. First you should go to couples therapy. If that don't work then filed for divorce.I mean he still love you, but not in love with you anymore.

Answer 10

Did he say this......or are you just insecure about your self. Maybe when we are comfortable we tend not to dress up anymore, pick our noses, fart hehehe you know. We tend to lay back a bit. Ma bye put on some lippy on a sexy dress and hit the town together. Spend more time together doing things. Not just the house work. Cooking is always a way to a mans heart. :> Feel confident about who you are and you will shine through. Your husband will see this and find you sexy again

Answer 11

Marriage has ebbs and flows...perhaps this is just a low point?

Sit him down with a bottle of Glenfidditch and ask him to tell you, as bluntly as possible, if he doesn't find you attractive, and if so, why not.

Hearing some things will hurt like hell, but you can't fix what you don't know about. Good luck...