we broke for 2 months alr and i still miss and love him alot. we broke up because i said it out of spite and i thought he would pacify me. and the reason we quarelled was because he felt that he could not make me happy anymore.
he still calls me every night but is not willing to talk long.
he sitll accompanies me when i'm sad but each time i talk about us getting back, he would get angry. i am determined to get him back. sometimes i just cant control myself and finds him, but i know he does not like it. so nowadays i've been writing letters and putting it on his car secretly.
i'm afraid he might just fall for other girls within this period of time.
2007-11-22 19:00:36 · 14 answers · asked by flwergirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
u 2 r still in touch, keep u r efforts on, u will get him if u stand as his moral support in all aspects
tc
2007-11-22 19:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by raod4u 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't write him letters and crap. You are scaring him more away then he already was in the first place! And it was only 2 months. You're obviously not right for each other. If he doesn't want you back, then he doesn't. And if he calls you every night and crap, it means he cares, and is probably aware you are hurt from the break up, but doesn't stay on long, because he doesn't want to hear you cry about not being together anymore. Just forget it. Or keep trying, just dont irritate him.
2007-11-22 19:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl... You should never be "determined to get him back." I've been there and done that, and yes, I've got him back, but it never lasted long, because it was already over. How old are you? I'm getting the impression you're pretty young, so there are a LOT of guys out there for you to date.
You can't get over him because you still talk all the time. It's like picking the scab off of the wound every night that you talk to him. You need to step back and give yourself time to heal, away from him. Taking the step back will be the hardest part, but once your heart starts to heal and you realize you don't need him, and you're probably better off without him, you'll be SO glad you did. I've felt exactly as you're describing before, but I don't even THINK about those guys anymore. I'd never in a million years want to get back together with them because I know I can do better.
The first step to getting him out of your mind is getting him out of your life--even if only temporarily. You can still be friends, but only AFTER you give yourself the distance you need to get over him.
2007-11-22 19:08:11 · answer #3 · answered by Who's That Girl? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off some. You are beginning to act like a stalker. Act more secure in yourself, and just say very casually, that if he ever decides that he wants to get back together let you know, and drop the subject. Don't seem to anxious or easy. Guys like a challenge, but don't try to make him jealous, just act a bit colder than usual. If he loves you, he will move towards getting you back.
2007-11-22 19:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Grow up. In a relationship don't say "break-up" whenever an arguement crops up unless you really mean it. If you two were married right now, what kind of marriage would you have if you kept saying "divorce" whenever you guys fight?
2. If you love him as you claim, put your pride in the backseat and apoplogize for being so spiteful.
He sounds as if he still has feelings for you. Unless you've been threatening suicide - :P
Good luck. All the best.
2007-11-22 19:14:45 · answer #5 · answered by hoyden 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has wised up to your baby ways. Sorry but true, you can only push his buttons so long before he gets tired of it. And for him its a good thing. You need to control yourself and if you really loved him you would not want him to pacify you, you have gotten spoiled and now hes gone. Change girl!!!!
2007-11-22 19:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by sharp p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to stop all of this mushy stuff. Stop writing the letters. Don't answer his calls 100% of the time. Most of all definitely don't let him see you cry! Right now he has you right where he wants you and that's up his ***. You just have to flip it on him. Show him that you're ok with or without him. Then he'll be up your *** right where he shoud be.
2007-11-22 19:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki22 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what its like...but try to take time and think about yourself. Take it easu and think of ways you guys can be friends and start talking again...for a guy it can be traumatic especially if he loved you...we guys well some of us. will not show too much emotion were blocked off however we might hide behind anger and rage because it vents a little steam and shows no weakness... try to go somehere peacefull and just talk.
2007-11-22 19:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by gnetics18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
figure some way to meet him without actually meeting him like a chatroom and once he falls in love with you meet him and act like it was totally accidental and like its fate
you come off a little insane there though
if it dont work maybe you n me
2007-11-22 20:33:34 · answer #9 · answered by boredman443 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, u need to move on...coz you're only hurting yourself..i've been to that..open your heart..:)someone there is waiting..socialize with other people..date with someone else..don't let yourself look pity over a guy...if he really loves you he would not hurt you that much.. 2months is enough suffering and sacrificing..:)goodluck girl..
2007-11-22 22:01:15 · answer #10 · answered by blinkaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋