My brother is one of the most evil people I've ever known. He has a warped mentality that can change the littlest of issues into World War III. He will hear me complain about someone at work and develop a grudge against them, even though he doesn't know them and doesn't have to DEAL with them! He will then develop conspiracy theories, talk about dealing with them...before backing down. He gets seriously crazy about things that shouldn't worry him!
I also have this coworker(whom he hates but has never met ironically) who is a nasty person too. She has chased away a couple of my employees and angered many people at work because of her personality. She is a LOSER that has no people skills, yet is taking her little shift manager job a little too seriously.
I consider both of them total sociopaths, and the bane of many's existences. How do you deal with them?
2007-11-22 19:00:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
whew, I have a brother like that. His constant conversation is about how mean spirited everyone is, and he means everyone. How life has dealt him nothing but problems, doctors and lawyers only work for money and care nothing about helping people. You can't get a word in edge-wise, he'll say 'hush I 'm not finished', and monopolizes everyone's time with his rants. He needs psychiatric help, but then 'they are only after your money and they don't care'!!! Oh me. I try to listen for a while and turn the conversation into something more positive, it works for 20 seconds until he can think of another negative comment. Any doctors with advice here?
2007-11-22 19:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by winkcat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound crazy but maybe you might introduce your brother & coworker to each other. Sociopaths normally are very narcissistic so it might work, Just make sure they don't have any children, somehow. I'm amazed you can even talk to him.
I haven't spoken to my mother's other child (who embezzled $$$ from me along with some other "lovely" traumas) in 18 years & I don't plan to in the future.
I read a great book called "The Sociopath Next Door" by Martha Stout. I think it's the best one out there, and I've read a lot of them. I seem to be a magnet for psychopaths. You might like it. Truly there isn't anything that can help them. They have absolutely NO CONSCIENCE, what so ever. They rarely if ever get counseling. It's best we stay far, far away from them.
Take care.
2007-11-22 19:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by noodlesmycat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, not by hating them.
Every one has their own story, and I guess genetics dealt them a bad hand in "emotional intelligence". When they are family and you must live with them, it's best to try to intellectually understand it as much as you can, address it meidcally/therapeutically as well as possible, and, unfortunately, walk on eggs a lot. And hope it's a very recessive trait. If you are religious, praying for your brother will at least have the effect of opening your heart -- you know, that knot in your chest -- and making things more bearable.
The lady at work? I'd deal with her as little as possible, but I would take up the issue of "chasing away employees" with your own supervisor...
When you really want to pop 'em, consider how uncontrollably miserable they probably feel most of the time.
2007-11-22 19:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your q is how to deal with them. Put them on ignore. Gentle tell them their attitudes are a big turn off, and that with their sour faces they suck the energy out of people around them. You have nothing to lose, and they have everything to gain. If they won't listen, you can bet your comments will eventually sink in
Now, as for you: you are relating info to your brother that he then internalizes to somehow feel like he is protecting you. He needs to focus on his own problems, since its obvious he avoids his own feelings by getting too involved with "someone you work with." If you love and care about him, gently make it known that his WW 3 behaviour is not only unnecessary, but very unattractive. Using the word unattractive sinks in with men and women.
2007-11-22 19:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by unfinished_adolescent 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should not hate negative people, if they don't exist then positive ?
Best way to avoid them is give smile!!
2007-11-22 19:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by Pujan S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hate them? no, not really.
I kind of don't deal with them, as I am negative, twisted, and anti-social.
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Not narcissistic [to the girl who answered above me]
actually, I don't think much of me.
2007-11-22 19:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋