how to break up with my Gal, peacefully?

Question

I am in a triangle love. Married with kids and now i wish to break up with this gal to return to my wife n kids.

How to do so peacfully and so to resolve this easily.

ITs a long story but i do not wanna make this as a excuse.

Faults been done, nothing else will make it better. Hope you guys be understanding.

I am sorry.

She and I been together after me and wife fight for months. Now its been 1 yrs staying together in my place and its hard to make things reverse. or so to say,

"..please stop coming over and seeing each other..."

My friend recommend, a self-vanish is the best thing to do.

No words nothing at all just disappear.

BEST isnt it? can seems as avoid but its since there no need to give and take just disappear and be it.

WIll this is good enough?

Answer 1

Break it off clean, then Come Clean to the wife. Then go apartment hunting :)

Answer 2

There is no easy way. You are going to hurt her whatever you do now. What you should have done is thought things through BEFORE getting involved. Tell her the truth, that you are going to try to make your marriage work, and need to cut off all contact with her. And do just that - no phone calls, no email/MSN, no meetings.
Tell your wife. If your girlfriend gets into a hissy fit, and decides to ruin your life too, then at least your wife can be prepared. But you just might end up alone.

Answer 3

At a stage of 6 weeks they will start to make their own territory. Now if you got a lot of surface area like a 50 gallon+ than some may cope with he territory stress. As they grow they will need more space and casual fin nipping will happen. It all depends on the mood of the fish, if you get peaceful males then you can try to keep them, but that doesn't mean that all the bettas are going to be peaceful casual nippings and fights may occur. Females will be fine together once they build their hierarchy and some aggression goes on with them too. IF you want all the Bettas to survive you need to separate them, but if you want only some of the strongest to live you leave them in there.

Answer 4

Don't do it in person - she will get all pitiful and big-eyed and make it harder.

Just pick up the phone and tell her it's over and that you've reconciled with your wife and that you love your wife and family and tell her not to contact you ever again - not text, not call, not email, not IM - nothing. It's good to do this in front of your wife, too, so she knows it's over and can feel confident about it. Keep it to one or two sentences and hang up and don't say one word to encourage her in any way.

You made the right decision - your kids need both parents.

Joy to you!

Answer 5

Pal..i know your pain. It depends if the gal is understanding or may turn out to be vicious. Even the most docile gal can be vicious if she feels used. You will need to take a call and see if u can temper down ur relationship slowly rather than abruptly.Let it die a natural death. You can cite reasons of work pressures for reduced communication. Dont make SUDDEN moves..she will feel used and screw ur happiness maybe.She might be a nice gal no doubt but..still..who wants to feel used??
Also, dont destroy ur married life by confessing to wife etc...some of these guys who suggest so..might take pleasure out of seeing your marriage crumble for sake of their moral victory.IF u feel guilty..go to church and confess but not certainly to any of the affected parties.
Write me on how it goes.Best lucks.

Answer 6

If you haven’t been seeing her long it will be easy to tell her that it's not working. But my guess is that you have been seeing this lady for a while. So my next thought is: does she know you’re married? If so just tell her that you have made a mistake. Ask her to forgive you for hurting her feelings. If not come clean and tell her that you’re married. Either way I think that you should tell your wife. Just from your question I believe that you want to save your marriage. The question to you is do you want it bad enough to bare all? You have to come to grips with the fact that you made a mistake. Mistakes come with consequences.

Answer 7

How about honesty. The disappearing act is cowardly and immature. Why don't you just tell this gal that you're sorry, but are no longer in lust with her. Tell her you're in love with your wife and want to return to her and ask her never to call you or see you again. It's that simple.

Answer 8

Tell her you no longer wish to be in a relationship with her, and be honest if she asks why. If you live together, move out into a place of your own. Once you are on your own, talk to your wife about reconciling the marriage. Offer to take things slow, and to go to marriage counseling.

Answer 9

so sounds like your wanting to go back well what if the wife don't you back?then what you stay?they deserve better both of them "gals"so get real theres no easy way you started the Jerry springer and I'm sure it will end that way.buddy do the right thing pic and stick with it don't go back and forth if not for the"gals"then do it for the kids

Answer 10

Tell your girlfriend that you want to see your kids more or something. Just "blame" it on your kids, say a bunch of cheesy stuff. The alternative is to make her break up with you also, turn up the obnoxious.